Who's claiming this are our original ideas? or anybody?
This are universal principles, no need to get into this forum or following pere or TheKidd!! or another advanced member blindly you can even discover it for yourslef alone. They are fingers pointing at the moon. So to speak.
Define how can you be successfull, under who's terms in the interaction? I'd like to hear that.
You are using the wrong definition of indiference (your words; distant), use the search funcion in the forum, apathetic vs indifferent, to clarify your doubts.
What is that you are actually loving in woman (quantifiable things), with this magnetism affirmations? (not being sarcastic)
Have you removed your pink glasses, in your views of woman in general, what are you loving tho?
You are still seeing the interaction you have with woman in terms of loosing oportunities, (in terms of your gain) you still have a strong reaction towards "missing opotunities" (sick feeling). That's saying a lot about you. Which will be the funcion of magnetism if you sitll have this strong adhesive and needy vibe. And are not care free?
Have you ever stopped and asked why is this?
Personally, the sick feeling is more important to me than the girl, or girls in question. They are just distractors, and I think if I ever get with one wouldn't enjoy so much because of the sick feeling if she left!! Think of that for a second, it's the feelings inside that are screaming, not the outside that is happening.
I was there too, and still are somehow but I'm more aware, little by little I realized this was still wanting certaing things happen the way I wanted, in the time I wanted (ego gratification), thus not truly indifferent. And /fyi Indifference is more for your peace of mind and freedom, not for using it like a technique to have a cute girl bouncing on your dick, that's childish.
Pretending is the key word here; Stop pretending (peregrinus).
If you keep wanting you'll still be wanting for the rest of your mortal life. You ask for a want, the universe keeps you wanting, because you are asking for this to happen. They only way is give up wanting, is let go of wanting.
Search for user: Flow83 about how to be a worldclass boxer, or a great piano player analogies.
But since you are leaving I don't think so.
Well since Sai said the thing about the blue or red pill, seems like you see other schools of thought as being in the matrix, that's why I said that.
True, the advance users here are just trying to help.
What I am loving in women can be many things, but I am learning to love them, period. Just for the sake of it, and women can sense that, they give me the sweetest smiles and they are very nice to me, whereas before I used to get things like dirty looks or they would just ignore me. But I expect nothing in return for loving. I could get into why this is and stuff but you guys are going to get all up in my business about believing in new age/airy fairy stuff.
Whats wrong with seeing them as missed opportunities? Doesn't mean ill be sad/upset forever I mean, their is many more opportunities. I just feel like indifference can be used as an excuse to not own up to what you truly want out of life, and just give up desires.. in that case this is a very Bhuddist forum.
As far as wanting and the affirmations, well Arman (the author of the book im following) says that one of the most attractive qualities one can have is indefference, we all know what it means. But I'm still working on that. I'm not going into the actual affirmations and what I do because 1) i dont think you actually care and 2) you probably wont believe me.
Although one thing is for sure, I think you have the impression of me that I'm just after sex, well no. I think that's a really small part of the experience between men and women, so these aren't just "tricks" to getting laid. I want to build strong and meaningfull relationships, not just with women, but with everyone and anyone.
okay now im done.
When I say leaving I mean I won't really be an active user here as I was planning to before, but I still might check back from time to time, there are some real valuable lessons to be learned from this forum and it's users.
peace, and love.