My solution? Learn YOUR environment, and learn to observe and analyze.
Something that keeps coming up again and again on this forum -
FOR GOOD REASON!
Hands down, I have never had a woman treat me better. She will tell me to my face that she would do almost anything for me and only wants to make me happy...and her actions back up her words 100%.
A rare gem indeed
Especially the last bit, backing up her words 100%, I have only met a couple of women like this in my life, they are really rare gems.
Bottom line: It may be like finding a needle in a haystack, but it can happen if you are patient, picky, and know how to tell when a woman is choosing YOU. I didn't think women like that existed at ALL...and yet here she is in all of her glory.
They exist Kidd, as you say, you did not believe they existed, they do.
The key thing, in my view, is to avoid the 'red herrings' and the 'distractions' which are the women who appear to be this but are not. Much in the same way women get distracted by men who are not really men and they only find out when it is too late.
When you start automatically qualifying them and seeing if they fit YOU, that is a good sign. Rather than just hoping that they will go with you, you check if they are people you want to take along. When you find yourself acting with those traits you see women acting with, rather than jumping at anything that smiles at you.
Patience, Standards and Observation <- The key elements.
It is a rare woman who wakes me from my slumber, when she does I know there is something worth paying attention to.