Very profound!
If they take your kindness for weakness that is their problem...not yours.
And, very profound!
Why is it so black and white?
Do nothing
or
Blow Up.
There is a middle path.
Something I'm struggling with/working on. The PUA days left me with the bad habit of black and white thinking. And this has translated into everyday life as well.
What got me thinking about this was myself and a friend were at a bar and he said he was going to meet up with a girl who he liked a lot (however I can see she doesn't feel the same) at a bar down the street and would be back with her in 20 minutes. He never showed back up, and in spite of chatting with a cool dude next to me I was so upset over this. Not sure why. My first instinct was to be above it and not care at all. But I just couldn't shake being pissed off. My next instinct was to call him out through text the next day, but my gut said not too.
So I just chilled, festered in the anger without doing anything at all.
Much later in the day he apologized through text and I didn't respond, honestly because I was angry, and just kept watching tv. He then apologized again and asked if I wanted to meet up again tonight. I still didn't respond.
It then became comical, he kept apologizing and texting "bro again I'm sorry, where you at??" This was the release I needed to see that he felt shitty and was more worried about me than I was him. We eventually met up and all was cool.
Sometimes doing nothing is the answer, sometimes blowing up is the answer, sometimes explaining how you feel is the answer, sometimes subtly showing through actions how you feel is the answer, and sometimes varying degrees of all of the above is the answer.
I'm still working on this.