I feel like I want to share something about my journey...
I also don't know if the words 'social suicide' are the correct words to use but I borrowed it from
ManniJa's post:
http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... 186#p17186
when we talked about the value theory and how people (doesn't matter if it's Men or Women) don't really like\love you for you: but just your value- I went through a depressive period.
here are the threads about the value theory BTW:
http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopic.php?f=17&t=899
http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... =17&t=1396
and I don't want to hear anyone ranting that I gave the links instead of repeating everything again.

(just joking)
Anway:
Of course that we also love\like people for the value that they give But often in life we lose people that we liked\loved because they felt as if we had no more value to give them- and it still hurts (even though we are doing the same thing). Also if you have good friends or a girl that you really 'love'- there is always some fear of losing them or her.
Even our parents love sometimes feels like it's conditional.
So after I understood that, for a while it was a bit depressing for Me.
But then I did what The Kidd and also Grinus are always talking about...
So if everything from other people is just about value, what's the solution?
Yea you already know:
to become your own best friend.
This is one of the most importent things and yet one of the hardest thing to do...
How do you do that?
we talked about it- tap into your subconscious mind & Do the things you love to do....
SO after doing that for a while (and it took time- it's not an overnight fix)
My depression turned into freedom
Now it's not like I never get fear from losing people however,
most of the time when I'm with people I care about- I'm not afraid anymore.
After you accept that everything is just about value and you work on becoming your own best friend- then you are no longer living in fear of losing people.
Again: it's not an overnight fix and it's hard- but if you go down this path true freedom can be found. And true freedom feels better than Sex.
I also got back to my spiritual path again - this is something I love doing (so it's a part of 'Do the things you love to do....').
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