Posting this as a reminder to myself, but it may be of value to others.....
Pretty good article on indifference, but to me the REAL value is here:
It’s the difference from “letting something go” and “letting something be”. You see, letting something go implies that “you” are the bigger person for letting this person, issue, or situation go. But, there is an implied urgency that you need to get over it now. Because this is what you may not be feeling in the moment, it can create conflict and resistance. When you let the words “let it be” swish around in your mouth or float around in your mind, you will find that it has a much gentler and sweeter taste. It means you don’t have to let it go, and you don’t have to force yourself to do anything you don’t want to. Instead, you can simply just sit and accept what is currently in front of you. When you let things be, the decision to do so is in your hands. You have full control to accept what is in front of you and the power to choose what you will do next.
When you can come from a place of let it be – then that gives you the space to process. That gives you the room you need to breathe a little and get some perspective in the moment. Now, I’m not saying that you need to do this every time or that you will have the strength to every time – but anytime you can do this will be a dramatic improvement. When you can come from this place: indifference is infinitely easier.
When you experiment with this and begin to master this skill you will be able to access your personal internal powerhouse equip for challenging situations. Whether it be a rude comment that a woman makes to you while talking; a jealous feeling that begins to well inside you when your girlfriend/partner is telling you about a colleague or male friend she had lunch with; or when you are mustering up the courage to approach a woman.
^^^ THIS THIS FUCKING THIS!!! (Emphasis mine.)
For a number of years, my spiritual path included "letting things go". However, I was doing it WRONG AS FUCK the whole time. Just like HAF says above, this used to be misinterpreted by me as saying that you should FLING the feeling AS FAR AS FUCK AWAY FROM YOU AS POSSIBLE. Through some of the other Natural Freedom threads that I have been re-reading lately (that have some greeeeeat posts by Flow, 'Grinus, and Kidd!!), I realise now that every time I did it in the past, even if it seemed successful at the time, the feelings actually remained buried in my psyche, and were added to the accumulated septic pile of similar crap.
So when I was rereading these threads, and watched that EXTREMELY illuminating video about "releasing misconceptions" by GP Walsh (thanks Flow
), every time I saw 'Grinus write "Let it go!" in bold letters, I realised that while this is indeed a "physically" accurate description - you remove your hands from it, stop choking it (no references to jerking off, fellas
), and give it room to breathe - for some strange reason, the words give me the wrong impression. Don't get me wrong; the problem is not in the words, per se, but in some fucked up impression I have long held in my mind about them. That's why i felt the need to post this - another newbie to this site may have this same difficulty with this concept that I did.
These days, when I see the words "let it go", I also immediately imagine the words "let it be".... so I was pleasantly surprised to see this distinction proposed by her.
[Actually, I wonder if my misunderstanding of "let it go" doesn't stem from the Western mental programming of using force as the only solution. The words are accurate to what we are talking about as I described above, but for some reason, when I think about physically letting go of something, there is a subtle tendency to want to give it a gentle push or nudge away from me at the same time. Or to maybe hold it up and drop it, which would result in it breaking. Just a thought.......]
By the way, when I first read some of these posts last year, I browsed HAF's blog, and was impressed with what I found. Sure, I may not agree with everything she says, and no one's perfect but she seems to have her head screwed on straight. I wish her all the best......
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