Well, I just started another thing. Often I just tell myself "midway you are so great!" "I love you so much! Why? just so!" "midway you are AWSOME man AWSOME" "midway you are enough! you are cool" "midway I accept how you are"
In the first look that could sound very egoistic BUT everyone would accord with me when I say we have to love and accept ourselves. So If you say that often to you you will feel this good energy which is flowing through you. That has nothing to do with an egoistic mindset, cause when the time has come that you BELIEVE it you will BE it. You know what I mean?
There are two ways to do what you describe.
The first is a very egoistic way (with lack of real acceptance) which will turn people off to you because of your energy.
The second is because you truly believe and accept yourself to be that person, which will attract people because of your energy.
I do know what you mean and agree. Preparing yourself for when it matters, it being a part of you rather than something you have to 'switch on'. Authenticity and acceptance.
This also comes back to realizing what and who you are, accepting what and who you are, accepting it and celebrating yourself.
When you do that, others will follow you in your thoughts and actions.