Hineini wrote: * | Fri Apr 09, 2021 12:37 am |
For some reason splines and interpolation cross my mind at this point.
The ebbs and flows of projects and purposes?
TheDude wrote: * | Fri Apr 09, 2021 2:04 am |
This post goes nicely with this subject -
Waypoints and not Goals
Thinking of a curve through points, ala beizer or cubic curve. with the control points as your intermediate goals (or waypoints).
How the path is influenced by them, how it may pass through some points, come close to others, or seemingly be a distance from others. All part of the curve or path along the way.
The path is constantly having control points added and removed as things change, all along its path. Some bigger with larger influence, some smaller with smaller influence, all with some influence on the path.
There may be detours that seem far from the overall path that later rejoin and smooth out
Hineini wrote: * | Fri Apr 09, 2021 12:37 am |
Precisely! And one further; if your life is organised around this purpose, and knowing that achievement leaves your purposeless.. what will that do to motivation?
you will find ways to undermine its achievement and getting close to it would fill you with anxiety.
I will hold my hands up here.. I have done that exact thing when younger, the closer I got the more I got in my own way, I could not see past the achievement or my impression of it. Have seen this in others as well.
Also where you achieve it and then basically sit on that point, neither moving forward or backward. fearful of losing that seat or that the achievement may diminish (esp if one that needs upkeep - eg sports)
Perceiving the value in that point being more than moving on, though it rarely is.
which brings up this:
TheDude wrote: * | Fri Apr 09, 2021 2:04 am |
It's like another end goal - I want to find my purpose so I can finally be comfortable. I'm being harsh - it's another form of mental masturbation.
In simpler terms, my purpose maybe is to do what I enjoy (on a deeper level) and maybe that changes at a later time.
Not being harsh at all imho.
TheDude wrote: * | Fri Apr 09, 2021 2:04 am |
I want to find my purpose so I can finally be comfortable
Accurate AF
Hineini wrote: * | Fri Apr 09, 2021 12:37 am |
There's no destination. The journey is all that there is, and it can be very, very joyful.
Making purpose present.. purpose being the experience and way of relating to the journey itself.. I start to lose words here.. something to keep feeling out.
Being present during the journey, rather than looking to the past or future too much.
If you are too focused on the future, are you ignoring now? missing things happening now? that are relevant?
same with the past
both can blind you to the present imho
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a thought that came to me as I write this, say you are in a situation in the present, you have various experiences of a similar situation in the past, due to that you have preconceptions about how it would play out in the future and the present (by inference).
Is it possible that the current situation may have some lessons to teach you about how it may turn out differently to your preconceptions, which may then influence how you would view future events and possibly also re-evaluate your views of the past events.
If you are not present, you may not even realise those lessons are being presented to you, much less grasp them and benefit from them. possibly for the rest of your life.
You may also influence the current situation to become more like the one in your preconceptions and memories, thus re-inforcing your thoughts and actions, by hanging onto the past and also your predictions as to the future. (in essence, refusing the chance of a lesson)
I see the yearbook/lists thing as freeing you up during the present, as you have already decided on a direction, on those things that in sync with your values and where you want to go (roughly) and also where you do not. so in the moment, seeing how something fits with them is a lot quicker/easier/seamless, as you've already spent time examining things away from the scene so to speak, you have your baselines for your current direction and alignments.
So a smaller comparison/check is needed at the scene, in the moment. You are not having two discussions at the scene (one with yourself and the past/future and one with the present) in yourself.
Hence letting you stay more in the present.
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TheDude wrote: * | Fri Apr 09, 2021 2:04 am |
Stunning post/thread