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PostPosted: Thu Jun 21, 2018 3:11 pm 
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The mate switching hypothesis

David M. Buss, Cari Goetz, Joshua D. Duntley, Kelly Asao, Daniel Conroy-Beam

Department of Psychology, University of Texas, Austin, United States
Department of Psychology, California State University, San Bernardino, United States
The John Stockton College of New Jersey, United States
Leaving one mating relationship and entering another, serial mating, is commonly observed in many cultures. An array of circumstances can prompt a mate switch. These include (1) unanticipated costs in flicted by one's mate, or ‘relationship load,’ not apparent on the initial mate selection; (2) changes in the mate value of either partner, creating discrepancies where none previously existed; and (3) the arrival of a new and interested potential mate of sufficiently incremental value to offset the costs of a breakup.

The mate switching hypothesis suggests that these circumstances created adaptive problems throughout human evolution that forged adaptations to anticipate and appraise opportunities to mate-switch, implement exit strategies, and manage challenges confronted in the aftermath. We review several studies that support various aspects of the mate switching hypothesis.

The cultivation of ‘back-up mates,’ assessing mate-inflicted costs that comprise relationship load, monitoring selfishly-skewed welfare trade off ratios in a partner, gauging mate value discrepancies, and anticipating sexual, emotional, and economic infidelities. The mate switching hypothesis provides both a complementary, and in some instances a competing, explanation to the 'good genes’ hypothesis for why women have sexual affairs, and parsimoniously explains a host of other mating phenomena that remain inexplicable on alternative accounts. ... D-2017.pdf
Assessment of mate value cannot be a static snapshot at a single point in time. Any dimension of mate value such as emotional stability, dependability, extant encumbering commitments, status and resource trajectories may be in flux at any time and require temporal tracking.
The need for tracking does not end after a mate is selected. A mate showing stellar career promise may fail to live up to expectations.

In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

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Currently reading, just confirming what we've talking here since 2010 :lol: (or before that)


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PostPosted: Sat Jul 07, 2018 8:53 am 
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Trust strongly and negatively predicts breakup.

Jealousy is a harbinger of divorce, and even though jealousy can have positive or negative effects depending on how it is communicated, it is “in most respects a detriment to close relationships”.

There is strong evidence that only one of the 19 Shackelford et al. (2005) mate retention tactics actually predicts mate retention (i.e., relationship stability): love and care. ... ll2014.pdf

In other words, people who are agreeable, secure, emotionally stable, and have high self-worth are more likely to report love for their partners and that they believe they are loved by their partners.

Partner effects do emerge for self-esteem and attachment anxiety such that the partners of low self-esteem or high-anxiety individuals report lower relationship quality.

If people do in fact possess a core mate value intrinsic to the individual that inspires positive or negative romantic evaluations, it appears to be so weak that, as time passes, it drowns in the sea of idiosyncrasy that characterizes the highly affect-laden relationship initiation process.

There is little doubt that some people have more objectively appealing qualities than others. Acquired through either good fortune or hard work, these qualities predict romantic success in initial attraction settings for those who possess them. Nevertheless, the current data hint at the possibility that human mating may depart substantially from a merit-based selection process. Romantically desirable traits actually appeared to be more relational than trait-like (i.e., consensual) across the contexts that we examined, and this difference between uniqueness and consensus was even more pronounced when people estimated how happy they would be with someone as a relationship partner. Among individuals who knew each other especially well, the data revealed very little consensus and large amounts of unique, relationship variance. These findings reflect the natural subjectivity inherent in our perceptions of others. In some cases, this idiosyncrasy may generate frustration, especially if a desired other does not see the reality of one’s outstanding qualities. Yet in other cases, this idiosyncrasy will prove fortuitous, as it permits nearly everyone a chance to form relationships where both partners view each other as uniquely desirable. ... 14JPSP.pdf

Couples who formed their relationships soon after meeting were more likely to match based on physical attractiveness than those who formed their relationships well after meeting each other. Moreover, assortative mating based on attractiveness was stronger among couples who had not been friends before dating than those who had been friends before dating. These findings are consistent with previous research demonstrating that relatively short acquaintance lengths tend to be associated with romantic impressions that rely heavily on consensual desirability, whereas longer acquaintance lengths tend to feature romantic impressions that rely heavily on unique, idiosyncratic desirability.

Closed fields (e.g., workplaces or classrooms) may permit longer acquaintanceships and generate friends-first relationships, whereas open fields (e.g., bars or large social gatherings) may lend themselves to romantic pairings after shorter acquaintanceships. That is, independently of acquaintance length, closed fields (as opposed to open fields) might also encourage individuals to form idiosyncratic impressions of people’s desirable qualities, thus reducing assortative mating.

The present findings suggest that in contexts in which people generally agree about who is desirable and who is not, competition in the mating market will be strong, and sorting according to this agreed-upon desirability will be prominent. Yet in contexts that allow people to develop divergent perceptions about each other’s positive and negative idiosyncrasies, the traditional trappings of market forces fall away, permitting individuals to seek mates on a more level playing field. ... 15PSci.pdf

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