Man and Woman
" ... For example, von Hildebrand makes the point, as I was to do later, that amorality in sex is worse than immorality. One who sins out of weakness may still be conscious of the beauty and majesty of conjugal relations, and he has the opportunity for repentance, while the amoral, “scientific” man who “doesn’t see what the big deal is” about chastity is cut off from an important dimension of human reality. ...
...Von Hildebrand emphasizes that we should not see love as an appetite, as an extension of self-love, or as a means to happiness. Rather, he understands love to be the supreme response to the objective value of another person. Unlike other value responses, such as admiration, love responds to the overall beauty of the beloved, to her value as a unique person, rather than to one of the beloved’s isolated qualities. ..."
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