Get more out of this.
Explore what was blinding you to seeing the situation clearly. It's not just "she is attractive." There is an emotional thing going on inside of you, that she activated. You want to be able to picture her and this situation and have no emotional charge around it, to see it with clarity. It will happen again if not addressed.
Why did you feel so much drive to turn the situation around with her. What was it to prove about yourself? That you were powerful (which means you feel un-powerful)? That you were good at 'the game?' The game in this story means chasing, changing a woman who is not interested in you hoping to turn her interested in you. This is a losing game- but many guys are deeply attached to it and see every piece of advice as how to play this losing game better. They try to turn inner-states into outer-techniques to control situations, instead of cultivating inner-states that create positive situations.
Otherwise, you will draw more women like this into your life, simply to exercise the power of saying no to the situation. To prove to yourself that you're not the type of guy who will be manipulated. But what you really want is inner peace, and women who actually like you.
Hi, to be honest with you there is a mix of things.
At that time I was focused to an exam for uni and actually I thought most of the time, every time we saw each other, that it will be the last, actually I told her about it one time and she answered me "i know that" and to justify myself: In my mind she ways cooler than me or I should say Im not the kind of guy she would be with.
For what I mean she has ton of friends (male), work, travels done, Independence, the city she is living...instead of me, loner, no job at the moment, at my parents, who enjoy being alone, minimalist, nature, sports, walking, interesting conversations...(If I could describe myself with an actor, being misterious, im similar to benicio del toro). I hide it but i guess in our conversation maybe she see that cause I was kinda honest with the economic situation here, what I enjoy to do and my future plans of leaving the country.
Another thing, but I put in her insecurities, The way she ways talking about "what this/that person did to/for her", well, I didnt understand why she talked about that.
The other thing was, when I got to know her, her kinda bad situation she talking about that make me feel uncomfortable (about why she ways there, left a boyfriend who was controlling, mentally instable, always at pc, he didnt want some her male friends, or to go out too much with her or that she should not this or that, caming from a divorced family...for what she said to me about) and this umcomfort feeling brought me back in memories the unpleasant feeling I had for the end of the relationship with my ex girlfriend that I had few years ago, physically speaking they are similar too (blue eyes, simple kinda dress style, few days different but the same sign of scorpio).
I really like simple style girls, she is not hot but her body language was kinda shy...I liked her.
The chase started when I was stopping to think about fucking her /to create the situation for doing so, a bit because I was focused on my exam and a bit because I remember I told her "its too bad that I cant come to your home and have a dinner together" and her answer was kinda like that "yeah...long pause...but im here in vacations, i cant be at home, when I am at my home I can stay at evening..ecc ecc"... and my attitude changed too because I wasnt thinking about fucking her like I sayied before, I remember I was more comfortable, more spontaneous and she was responding good...or because she is a sly one/goody-goody (like the ex I was talking about).
So yeah I did a half ass job and i get half ass result. Lame, I failed at taking the lead, I`ve should sayied no and stand up for myself in the times I felt in my gut she was testing me/taking me for granted, so I wouldnt become her time ho.
I guess this experience left me some kind of imprinting because yesterday I was going on my favourite spot to be alone, listening to music,enjoying the sun and i saw a girl who was just like her...and In my gut/radar feeling immediately I felt a unpleasant/surprised sensations (I swear I thought "she is here"). I didnt talk to this girl even she kinda look at me couple of times or maybe she did cause of my goofy expression of my face I had.
Ps:Let me tell you i spent for that girl 4€ coffe, a pizza slice, i took her to the places I wanted to share with her, but i know that the fellas she was going out in the evening spent more and more money for her company (pizza, cinema, gas for the car).