I met a woman who seems interested in me a year ago, but she has a problem behaving in a way that I accept.
We exchanged numbers and talked for a while. The conversation turned sexual, her leading. She asks to see the goods. I oblige and send her the picture because I didn't think it would do damage since she asked. I tell her to send me a picture of herself nude and she does not comply. I let it go because I can't force her to do what's right. Later in the conversation trail, we talk about meeting and come up with a time and day. She was supposed to come pick me up and never did.
After a few days, I text her that I don't appreciate her bad behavior and not to contact me until she changes. It was two strikes too many. At the time, I felt I was owed a response for her absenteeism. She doesn't respond at all.
two months or three months pass and she texts me out of the blue. After I find out who she is, I immediately tell her that I don't want to talk to her until she sends the pictures she owed me, apologize for not meeting me, setup a time for us to meet, and come up with a plan to show means she's sorry.
She doesn't respond. Another three or four months pass. She contacts me again. I didn't even recognize her face when she sent the picture after I asked who it was. She didn't text me her name immediately because I guess she expected me to remember her. Not knowing who she was I asked her how I can help her and what I can do for her. She gets pissy and says, "nvm since you're acting like you don't remember me". I respond with the fact that I don't know her name. She tells me.
I text her that she needs make good on the pictures, apology, and plan to show me she's sorry. This time I elaborate on her disrespectful actions and tell her everything that is important to me than talking to her: dignity, respect, integrity, and honesty etc. I remind her of what she did and let her know that she isn't mine until she acts like it. I acknowledge that she played me and won't let that happen again.
Again, she hasn't responded. It's been two weeks.
In retrospect, it was probably the dumbest thing in the world to let her see her boss so soon.
Getting played like that hurt, and I definitely won't allow any possibility of that again.
If history repeats itself then she'll contact me again in another two, four, or six months, but I have a feeling she'll never make good on my demands unless there's a freaking time bomb in front of her.
I don't want her unless she makes good on everything. Fwiw, none of the demands have money behind them like shoes or clothes etc. We haven't hanged out since we first talked. There's nothing between us strong enough to warrant that.
Is there anything I can say when she contacts me again that makes her comply? Or should I just let her twist in the wind when contacts me again? Should I just tell her to lose my number?
I'm sure she's been fucking other guys, and I'm not about to hold last in line unless making it worth my time by taking me places and stuff. I'd rather tell her to lose my number.
I feel like increasing the demands and giving her a final time limit, like she can lose my number after x day if she doesn't do what I said.