The concepts of letting go and not letting your emotions run you are much easier when your not losing. You said you don't do well in competitive video games.
I'm childish and hate losing haha, I can take a tactical loss to win the war. But I wouldn't be like oh I'm not winning I will just learn to deal with my anger. I would logically sit down and be like what is holding me back? What are they doing? What is their plan? How can I be precisely one step ahead of what they think? And how can I be one step ahead of what they think I would think? Onward and onward.
The solution is not to accept a situation that makes you feel powerless, but to adapt and overcome. By doing so you break the metaphorical chains of the emotion. You decide how you feel because you decide how to influence reality around you.
Ok, I get what you meant now.
You decide how you feel because you decide how to influence reality around you.
What I consider one of my biggest flaws.. Is that I don't feel (feel is more precise word that know) if it's right to spend time on it or not - If it's worth it, if I'm even good enough for it.. Especially with online games, my neck muscles r fcked up maybe because of sitting in front of pc for long periods of time (Doctors don't know) so it's even a health question..
I have serious problem with comitting to anything, as you guys here already know - Because I don't feel about anything it's the right thing, or worth it, etc.
Also, most people I play with for some time got better faster than I did
But I wouldn't be like oh I'm not winning I will just learn to deal with my anger.
I like this really much, because it describes what I'm going through all the time - I hate the option of fucking off and giving up because whatever reason - Feel like I'm absolutely powerless over everything in life, myself and my bullshit emotional states included
Knowing that this may be a defense mechanism against feelings of powerlessness, lack of control and feeling useless doesn't really help.
It's League of Legends by the way lol
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Knowing that this
is a defense mechanism against feelings of powerlessness, lack of control and feeling useless doesn't really help.