It's a small town, so people know each other.
Move. Not only for the adventure and starting fresh, but b/c of that, it's also your reputation that made that guy react the way he did. For ex, if your rep. were that u know gang members and shit, or some big shot of that town, the bouncers, then he would not be as quick to talk shit to you. Let alone pull a knife on you. U get what I am saying!
I go to speak to a group of women sitting at a table after walking back inside the bar, which I had a cigarette outside of previously.
That's what they are there for. Attention! If they would get the proper attention from the right guys, them, in particular, weren't be there, that evening !
Three guys from a Master's program are dancing a few feet away from the table.
I know them (well have talked to most of them on occasion). This Indian guy, self-proclaimed, I didn't know he was Indian, comes up and takes a seat between me and the girls when I talk to them. It was nearly immediately.
He actually is doing the work for you. U should have laughed at this point. Sit back and let him talk! Let him make a fool out of himself. Maintain or make eyecontact with the women from time to time, and chill. Always have a smile, he is your worker, he is under you, so let him work ! Put your full attention on him, put a lot of pressure on him. Bring the discussion to where u make him tell outloud how many orgasms can he give to a woman, how he pleases women, what are his bedroom skills! Make the fucker qualify himself.
I had seen one of the African guys put a beer bottle in the ashtray outside of the bar before he walked in.
They were definitely drinking before they came to the bar and were drinking while in the bar.
I on the other hand was drinking water because I had a few drinks at another bar in town.
Back to the story, he sits down in a chair that is not meant for the table. It's a chair that sits much higher than the table.
The girls had all looked at each other when I asked them why they weren't dancing. Apparently, his girl
decided to be the ring leader.
He
told me to have a seat. I told him that I would rather stand. After that, he stands up and gets in my face. He says, "Are you trying to talk to my girl?"
I've seen all of them on campus and thought they would be friendly. I was wrong. I answer, "no." Before I can respond and say what I was doing, he says, "you're talking to my girl!!!!!" Then, he says, "Do you want to dance!!!! This is an Indian song!!! Go dance!!!!" I say, "I don't want to dance. Are you really going to act neurotic?.....(edit: I remembered the 2nd line of what I said, but I don't think I said anything else)."
"What, you don't like Indian songs You don't like Indian people...(I forgot the rest of the disrespectful things he said in between the next sentence)."
He immediately says, "You need to leave!!!! Go!!!!!! You need to leave!!!!"
His yelling and escalation gave me a deep-seeded feeling in my bones to protect myself. I think for 2 seconds about how to do that. The multi-purpose tool that I found on couch had a 3 inch knife, with a blade that was adequate. However, it would take to long for me to examine it and use it.
My mind tells me that I'm too close to punch him with a jab (I didn't remember my boxing and think about the hook). I settle for choking him. I get him by the neck and start walking him over to a wall to pass him out and one of the African guys starts pushing me out of the bar to protect his friend after his friend breaks free.
Outside, the African guy is trying to calm me down. I'm done because the whole bar knows what happened. Apparently, while the African guy was pushing me out of the bar, the Indian guy had grabbed a beer bottle and was trying to hit me with it while behind the African guy's protection.
The African guy had said while pushing me out, "he can't fight you."
The bouncer kicked out the Indian guy, and everyone that I knew was trying to calm me down.
"Are you trying to talk to my girl ?" I have said once "Look, how am I suppose to know it's your girl ? I don't see your name written on her forehead!" And walked away. I always walk away.
"What, you don't like Indian songs You don't like Indian people...(I forgot the rest of the disrespectful things he said in between the next sentence)."
"No, no, no, look, stop ! ( with an authorative voicetone and facial figure ) I never said that, please don't put words in my mouth."
He immediately says, "You need to leave!!!! Go!!!!!! You need to leave!!!!"
This guy is so insecure and so threathened by you, it's just ridicules! If it were to get to this point, which of what I wrote it would never get to this point, I would leave. I don't have a huge ego. I know I'm the shit, I don't have to prove it to no one. And talk to some other chicks or do something else. I would never let someone else dictate how my night goes. Fuck that ! As a man, I am always in control ! And maybe I would give my business card to the other females, that are not taken, before I leave.
But, if I leave and he continues this shit, or if he puts his hands on me after I leave, then we would have a HUGE problem that needs to be adressed! I can deal with words, but I don't tolerate someone putting their hands in a disrespectful way on my body!
I will never understand how guys are so focused on other guys. This make 0 sense to me. They want women, but they choose to spend their energy and getting attention from men ? How crazy is that ??????????
The lessons u learned are important. I don't know you, true, but I am glad u didn't get hurt, on any level.
But if u had read what I wrote somewhere in the " bla bla bla Fashion" shit, I had already explained how to prevent this kind of bullshit!
Incorporate this rule in yourself:
Always be friendly with the guys. B/c they are your workers. A good manager is friendly to his employees, so they like him more, than an unfriendly one.
That's what I do, man! Guys have "female friends"
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( wtf is that bullshit ? ) that they are trying to fuck, but they don;t know how to ask for what they want. If u are friendly with them, they can lead u to the parties, birthdays, nights out etc or include u in their group. That's how u infiltrate groups. And then u extract the women, or give her your business card, so u get the girl u like on 1 on 1 basis, so u can work your charms.
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But it starts with the rule in red and bolded.
Learn how to follow instructions. Learn to listen and apply.
L.E. I almost forgot this one. Now this one I have to incorporate. Befriend the bouncers, man! Be super cool with the bouncers. That's how u make sure they got your back. A good way to start is casually talk about where they pump iron ? What gym and shit. Why is better at that gym then the other ? Next week u talk to him again, next week again, and sooner or later he would get familiar. It's this thing I call social intelligence.
Have a good one.