Needed to take a break from studying for midterms and relax here.
Lot of interesting points.
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Obviously you were the safest option. Or...maybe it was just a seat to sit on?
She mentioned her BF because she wanted to take herself off the meat rack, regardless of whether she wants to get down with you or not.
Point is - watch what they do, not what they say.
A few weeks ago, I would've probably agreed with your statement, and doubted my breakdown.
Not the case now.
I think you have to get more piled manila papers to get a solid case.
Agree, her file isn't exploding, but her attraction for me is not questionable. What she does with it I think depends on how much I open up to her, be myself, and give her space.
It could be to a point where she just can't take it and comes knocking at my door wanting it.
(This would be ideal for me, because I wouldn't feel guilty about wrecking the relationship; she came to me
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In my experience, whenever a chick that was jocking me made quick mention of her boyfriend, 9 times out of 10 it was proven to be that she already knew she was vulnerable with me and KNEW it.
So they figure that by doing that, you'll hopefully respect it enough not to make a move, because if you did she knows she'd be in trouble.
Bonus protip: Also, it makes it easier for you to smash and dash because you can lay down part of the contract with, '...and I know you already have a man and I'm not trying to take his place...so we BOTH know what this IS.'
Wow, this is makes a bunch of sense, and I can see how it lays out the contract as well.
Shank you.
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The first girl I ever slept with had a boyfriend. Not only that, they were supposedly deeply in love and planning to get married.
The labels, oh the labels. Getting past the labels.
(and boxes) Yup. It is what it is, and nothing more.
To be fair, physical/sexual attraction is independent of 'love'...in other words, you can fuck someone else and still 'love' your partner, as twisted and deviant as that may sound...though in most cases the 'partner' is usually a 'better option' in almost every other aspect minus raw sexual attraction/attention.
Made me think of a debate question asked in the peer sexual health internship I'm apart of on campus..."Does a husband love his wife, if he uses a condom with his girlfriend?"
It was setup like, "everyone who agrees go on the right side of room and everyone who disagrees go on the left side of the room".
It was enjoyable and interesting to see the females opinions and reactions to this question.
I found myself on the "agreed" side with only 1 or 2 other people.
One of the other people being a darn cool open minded girl.
Her and I had the view of 10+ agitated and disgusted females ready to give their opinion.
Kidd you said somewhere here before, (paraphrasing) "Love can influence sex and sex can influence love, but they aren't necessarily dependent on each other".
It's a double edged sword...and the fact that she would stay with such a dude speaks volumes of her 'hidden' insecurity.
True.
Attention seeking girls, turn me off right now, and I think that is cause I seek attention.
Moment of silence.