Care to elaborate a bit more? Perhaps, share an anecdote?
No one's going to share a story? My story isn't a pure guy-friendzones-girl story but it should suffice.
Patience, patience. I do have a business to run over here...
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So, this story is about as classic as it gets. A while ago, my housemate was dating this girl for several years, but she was off at college for most of that time, while he was here working (he was a fair bit older than her). So she would come back for winter break, summer, etc, and live with him. I moved in with him a couple months before girlfriend graduated from college and moved back here, and she moved in full time.
Side note: My housemate just 'gets' a lot of what we talk about here naturally and intuitively. Like if I were to try to explain concepts from here to him he wouldn't necessarily follow or even agree, but then if you watch his behavior, he does an awful lot of what we espouse here just as his natural reaction to things.
Anyway, once girlfriend moves in full time, she starts nesting and getting more and more demanding and bitchy. I'm getting kinda fed up with having her living with us, and my housemate is also getting more and more annoyed with her. So, after about 4 months of her living with us (I think they had just hit 3 years of dating), he decides that he doesn't want a girlfriend at all, that its too much work, too much time commitment, and he just wants to be free of all that.
So, he tells her he's breaking up with her and she has to move out, but that he still likes her and is totally happy to hang out with her, and that he still really likes her as a friend, but he just doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone, and doesn't want to spend as much time with her. So, straight friendzone. None of this is a technique to achieve some goal or anything - it was all 100% congruent. She is devastated and moves out.
Fast forward 3 weeks and they start hanging out again, but my housemate is firm on not getting back together even though she tells him she wants to date again every time they see each other. He maintains the hard friendzone boundary for about 1.5-2 months. During this time, they hang out 1-3 times per week, and it starts getting more and more ridiculous.
She drops $50 on amazing ingredients (and she was only working part time waitressing) and comes over to cook him a super-gourmet four course halibut dinner and clean the entire kitchen up afterwards while he chills on the couch digesting. He plays poker once a week, and she just volunteers out of the blue to buy him a pizza and bring it to him at poker night (and since its guys night, she gave him the pizza and turned around and left). She gives him massages and cleans his bathroom for him, and comes over and makes him french toast in the morning. All without asking him to do anything for her other than just let her hang out with him. She offers to do something for him probably about 6 days a week, but he only agrees to let her do these things for him maybe 2-3 times a week because he doesn't want to spend that much time with her.
Anyway, after about 2 months of this, they start sleeping together again, but first he limited it to 1 sleepover per week, then 2, then it bumped up to 3, then 7 or 8 months after he made her move out, she's back over at the house probably 5 or 6 nights a week. Through this entire time he insists they are not in a relationship, just dating, but I told him that if she's sleeping over at the house more than 2-3 nights a week, and he's not allowed to date any other girls, then that means she is his girlfriend again, to which he acquiesced. But to her, he never let her call him her boyfriend or refer to them as 'in a relationship.'
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One important note I have about this is that he was 100% congruent the entire time. None of it was a technique to get her to change her behavior or do something for him (ie. manipulation). He really did want to stay friends with her, but really didn't want to be in a relationship with her.