That's the kinda shit I got thrown in the middle of..and why I will never get
married
I have more sympathy for the children than anything.
Sorry to hear that... I definitely feel for the children too. I think my family situation was pretty negative growing up, but nothing compared to this...
In the Great Female Con the author talks a lot about prenups. He says that even in cases of fault (ie. cheating, abuse, etc) the possessions are still split 50/50 (ie. the law does not care about fault). But now I'm not so sure - I think it might vary from state to state...
Regardless - I can't help but think that this woman must fall into one of two categories:
1) Truly bat-shit crazy (ie schizophrenic, needing medication, etc), which doesn't necessarily excuse her from her actions.
2) If she's not truly insane (which I think she's not since she had the presence of mind to try to destroy the evidence), then she must be as bad as the worst described in either the Great Female Con or the Manipulated Man.
I have to wonder if there had been a prenup in place if she would have had to think twice about doing what she did. If she wasn't essentially guaranteed 50% of the possessions, the kids, child support, and alimony, do you think she might have a bit more incentive to prevent her from doing the shit she did to this poor symp? Although I guess there's a chance that she went too far and screwed up all the money, custody, etc (and hopefully I can help ensure that if I get called in to testify for destruction of evidence...).
As for me - seeing less and less reason to get married. Sure, have a big "commitment party" and invite all your friends/family, but seriously - why sign legally binding documents? Doesn't seem to be hardly any positive aspects of it, and it just doesn't seem to make much sense...