One more question, do you hit on girls on the street, malls, bars?
if they answer is yes, how do you approach them out of 'nowhere' and use the 'playing off of something in the immediate environment'?
I guess in bars you can use the environment factor, it's a bit more of a problem on the street
or in malls (if you are not inside a store, like in the food court.....)
if No, then just ignore my question
Please point out if I seem utterly mad Sniper, please do.
There is usually FAR MORE to comment on in the street than in a closed environment, you basically have the whole road/town/city to comment on.. umm, lets see, directions, places close by, favourite places to eat, weather, the shop they came out of, are going into, looking in window of, other shops on street, the bags in their hands (their shopping), the look on their face
Situational comments do tend to work best from my experiences, it takes the pressure off them while they are talking initially (it is not all about them seemingly), then they can go deeper at a more comfortable pace to them(faster or slower)
Once they start talking, they will give you far than enough material to carry on a conversation unless you have your head in the sand. They will also drop in comments which tell you where their mind is while they are talking to you, remember women tend to talk in an indirect way, but if you listen to it indirectly then certain things will *JUMP* out at you - they will seem OVERLY obvious, as long as you are not concentrating on all the words they say literally, but as music coming from their mouths to compliment the non verbals.
Those moments when you think "did she really just say that" in the middle of an innocuous sentence, YES SHE DID!, she isn't even probably consciously aware of it, however she did say it and she did mean it.
As I keep saying, give them space and they will feel compelled to fill it, they will fill it till it is overflowing, this includes talking.
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-- Just came back from buying a birthday present for someone.. Ended up talking *lol* to this woman in a shop.. It started with us both looking at a shelf in the shop and me saying "
There isn't much choice here" - not even to her, just to myself, thinking out loud to myself (
I know, I am crazy, I talk to myself in public ).
She then commented on what she was looking for and how she could not find it, I asked why she was looking for it, she then talked for about 10 minutes without interruption from me.
We ended up in the coffee shop, after her having offered to buy me a drink (thus giving herself more time with me, without any pressure - she could leave at any time and so could I) and having bought me a coffee. She had waited for me to sit and then chose the chair next to me.
I literally said probably 4 or 5 sentences to her in the whole 30 minutes, she was reading my non verbal responses to what she was saying - the bits I showed interest in she talked more about, the bits I was not too enthusiastic about she dropped.
When I realised what the time was, mentioned that I had to get going.. She said how she had really enjoyed spending time with me and wanted to see me again sometime soon, she was glowing and very nervous/expectant.
I looked at her in a considering way, right from bottom to top, smiled genuinely at her and nodded (as if had made a decision within myself). She offered me her phone and I entered my name/number.
(When you get to this point in the interaction, really REALLY pay attention to her face when you hand the phone back, the look is usually priceless *hint*)
I smiled at her, said it was nice to meet her and left.
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In case you missed it, I did not approach her, she placed herself in proximity to me at the start, I had noticed her a few minutes before in another area of the shop.. As I was standing at the shelf she just happened to appear next to me looking at the same stuff.. Co-incidence? hmmmm
All she needed then was an excuse to start talking to me.
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One final word, in my view, with women -
THERE IS NO ACCIDENTAL TOUCHING!
They are very aware of their bodies and the space around them, if they touch you it is for a reason.