He makes some good points. I liked what he said about how some people
replace difficult or unattainable attachments for something easily acquired and how marketers take advantage of that. 1 He talked about how a fate based view allows him to handle bad results better. 2 The thing is, when I hear people say "it wasn't meant to be", it's usually some kind of rationalization to hide their hurt feelings. That kind of mentality tends to handicap a person from learning from their mistakes.3
Thanks for the video.
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This could be called avoidance.
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This is what all the self-help mumbo jumbo books call "Optimistic" or, Postive Attitude.
Fate, hmm I have thought about this, but only a little. Since you don't know for certain how it is going to unfold any event in your life, and if you do want is wanting control, and if you become obsessive about it's dangerous.
How would you call the "non judgmental view of life" (I call it observer) And this is what detachment means, It's more or less like this:
I just don't know, It just doesnt matter.
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'It wasnt meant to be.'
I agree he used some 'femenine/passive rationalization', maybe the connotations and personal experiences behind this phrase is what bothers you.
If you allow any thought to 'cling' in your mind after the event passed. (A personal example: It did't work out with some lady), and you still worriying about what it 'could be' then, is more sane to think "It wasn't meant to be" but with the mindset of letting go the emotion still ruminating in your head, not like some melodramatic soap opera 'meant to beish' pussy rant.
Because rather as you experience it, didn't happned it cannot be changed, at least immediatley. In other words the event didn't occur as you <<expected, wanted>>, thus a false reality in your mind emergin, because you attached so much meaning to this alternate reality before & after the event occured. The
what if pictures running loose.
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meant to be it's about <<destiny, fate>> again, is any of this things under your control?
So it doesn't matter how you label your experience of the event, because in the long run, (reiterate) It didn't happened. The only thing under control it's your experience/emotion of the events. Sometimes the surrender is more empowering than the non stop inquisitive mind, but again it depends.