this is still a big chalange for me in life- with women and people in general...
setting my boundaries: on one hand to be a good person and not hurt people's feelings, on the other hand if one is too much good people use him.
I'm not naive and I don't let people use me, yet I still find it hard sometimes to set my boundaries
I'll use an example from my situation:
I'm still in touch with my ex-girlfriend. Sometimes she gets really needy or tries to control me-Well that never happens because I don't let anyone control me...
and sometimes I need to be tough with her to remind her that I'm not under anyone's control.
On the other hand I find it hard sometimes to be tough with people and hurt their feelings
because when I was in my first two years of high school I was very hurt by people and I had no friends. So everytime I run into a situation in which I need to be more tough with people- I always remember how bad I felt in the first two years of high school and then that stops me.
I don't know what to do...