And I get the feeling from some guys that changing your focus will result in a plummeting of your success because "You just don't care." If you don't care, you won't do anything about it. It's not that you don't care...
ITS THAT YOU DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR LEVEL OF SUCCESS. YOU DONT WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN, YOU JUST ARE.
That's one of the traps I get into sometimes, I know that I can't do NOTHING and I have to do SOMETHING...but when any push in her direction on my part or any move I make seems to push her further away, with anything as simple as me asking her an open question, it's easier NOT to care when this happens and become passive out of resignation, I'd rather do nothing and let the right girls come my way, those confident enough to go after a guy, I know that's too much to ask for these days.
When you don't care about success, you are free to be the star you are born to be. There's room for allowance.
Besides, trying with women for the rest of your life would suck, wouldn't it?
I've had this thought for awhile as well, the reason I feel feelings of neediness or whatever when I feel them it's because I care, if I didn't care, I wouldn't feel them....I noticed yesterday how my brother is still the same person when he's with me, or his girlfriend, he doesn't have to change who he is to keep her interested.
That make me think 'qualifying' myself ie spinning plates, meaning always being kept on my toes and trying to keep her interested would suck, I imagined carrying that into a relationship and that would suck, it would be a relationship founded on lies and manipulation, now I know why my date never called me back, because I lied to her trying to be Zan.