Grow a moustche (if you don´t have it) and deal with the consequences.
That´s what I did. I am a guy that was always shaved and that is definately my best look. I know it.
I had it for about two months and removed it by now but people still mention it. I was getting very mixed feedback and the feedback was always there. It was certainly a lot of reaction. Some women were coming up to me telling it´s really cool ( I grew a ridiculous from nothing to handlebar style) while others made an effort to come and tell me they don´t like it. Either way it was none of their business. One women came to me at the party to tell me that I look like a nazi. As she made a triple approach I had to tell her that I really don´t give slightest fu*k about what she thinks about it and its her job to get over it. By the last time she came to tell me "You know I love you." That particular weekend (it was a big camping out party of about 200 friends, most of pepole knowing each other) I had a lot of good fun but I have to say that I have been chalenged a lot. Probably the fact that I have managed to keep my cool regardless of other people opinons is what brought me so much satisfaction. But society is used to you the way you are and is not gonna help your change.
Now, that it is gone I bump into second wave of feedback, exactly: "You look so much better without it." I find it really annoying. No men ever says that, its only women. My friends guys normally say that it was really cool and funny (in a good way, bold in a sense) and they seem to understand the humor of it but women think as if everything is about them. I have to admit thatit annoys me. I know I look much better without it. Yet it was not about looking better for me but about putting myself at risk to create a character and some fun time... and I consider it a success cause I could handle it. I also wanted to let everyone know that I am not ashamed of my masculinity and some women really tried to make me feel like I should be.
What I realize is if you do something controversial there always gonna be people that are not gonna like it, so be ready for it, but there also gonna be others that will recognize the value of risk taking.
cheers all
P.S. I am not recomending growing moustaches.
