So just to be clear, it's not about people's nature, which is obviously there. Some of us ARE more chill, wild, ballsy, aggressive, everyone has their personalities and temperaments. However everyone does have access to the full range, but will express them in their own unique way. Otherwise there would be no point.
I am talking about when you take an aspect
of that nature and project all your stuff onto it, turning them into an archetype of that aspect (usually w/ a hero or villain quality) and stop making them a person in the real world. IE, they are always just 'the badass' guy or the 'mysterious guy'. Like his whole life is just the james bond action movie and he's always in this badass 'alpha male' mode and not a guy who goes to the post office and shit. As though every conversation with a female is some magic moment where they are in that character. Could be done in the negative side too -- 'oh this guy probably just hits women with a club and takes them to his cave and he's a jerk.'
Because it is human nature to do this, this is what exploits the fanboys of "gurus" and such. You really start to believe in this delusional universe where once you finally get this down, once you finally become that "lover of all women" or the "ultimate alpha male" that life just transforms into this beautiful porn movie that also happens to fix all of your other emotional, financial and inter personal issues somehow. You compare yourself to an impossible ideal, which is a disowned part of yourself that you romanticize (or villainize) and it keeps getting reinforced. Oh, you just need the next course-- oh you just don't really get it yet, if you really had it down like the way the advanced guys do, she would have slept with you right there on the dancefloor. There are a lot of guys who prey on this. However any time there is a format where there is someone who has it together or advanced, or an authority figure, guys project in this way onto them. Some will think the guy is the savior of mankind, others will think he's a scumbag piece of shit.
The inverse of the same coin is when it's -- I must destroy this quality because it's bad. IE i'm too much of a nice guy and I can't be "beta" so i must undo everything like that. If I say anything other than teasing a girl she automatically thinks I'm a loser.
You'll start thinking you can't smile to a little girl playing in the park because that's "symp" and your badass character would never do that.. a little exaggerated but actually not that much.
So If all that I do is a projection of my limited and wild mind or imagination (ego), then what else is true?
This is the million dollar question. What's absolutely true when there is NO thought, or story about it, and only the direct, *actual experience*? There IS a reality underneath it. The truth is the one thing that does not alter from person to person, that never changes, and does not appear/disappear like forms and bodies do.
Down a level -- this is guys who just see what is *actually* happening in a situation or interaction. They will tell you it's not really their mind. They are not referencing stuff they read.. "oh their body language leaned to the left, I learned that this must mean.." -- they are not super focused on the words they are saying and trying to figure out what they mean. They just GET what is *actually* going down, which may be completely divorced from the words being said or actions taken. This is not in the mind, and that drives the mind crazy, because it wants to understand it.
If they can see it and also know how to lead it where they want, it will look like jedi magic to an outsider who is only seeing what logically seemed to be happening.
Just to notice this falsness or catching up mentally when filling the mental voids with our own stereotypical bullshit about others, do this gets immediately disowned?
It's because it's disowned that you have the particularly strong judgement about it. Again that doesn't mean you LIKE it, but it doesn't have that edge to it that makes your skin crawl.
Can I stop to do that? or is it fine that my mind automatically do that, and just bringing awareness to this, is fine?
Try it and you'll quickly see you can't stop it. It happens WAY before conscious thought.
Based of what you write, how one reachs that one percent of "not based on me" perspective of others, and gain access to that authenticity of the experience?
It's a long journey, one way it can start is by being 100%, no BS honest about everything you are thinking and experiencing, accepting it fully without denying it. Then questioning it. You can start with more obvious things. Notice if you're out somewhere and some guy or girl just seems to be repulsive to you. Notice the whole thing being created and then marvel at the fact that the only thing you actually experience is seeing some guy standing there, and what went on.
To me one of the best and easiest places to start is body awareness meditation. Sit down, close your eyes and feel the energy in your head/face. Notice your mind immediately makes a picture of the face, then creates a context, a barrier there where your face starts and it ends. Let that dissolve and keep going into what you are actually experiencing
without the thought. Pretend you never saw a reflection of your face before or were born blind.
Do you personally think that this Jungian archetypes carry some of the knowledge of subconsious characters/entitites?
Don't really know what this means.
An archetype is an exaggerated representation of a particular characteristic in order to demonstrate it. Greek Gods, millions of other characters - they show one aspect of something in us in a more obvious way to help us get in touch with it and/or notice our disownership of it.
Also, I see that you frame all this in terms of energy and not a character (may be the same) but, can you explain a little bit more about this?
I think the previous sentence touches on that. Every single one of us has the "energy" available to us that can put its foot down and say no, fuck you, that crosses my boundary. You'll do it in your own unique way based on your temperament-- a la the beginning of the post. You also have the energy to be compassionate to someone who is suffering who needs it, or to be playful with a little kid.
If you think you are supposed to actually BE one of these archetypal characters all the time, instead of a complete human being, you will cut off access to everything else. IE, the guy being "cool guy" all the time that soon starts to seem like a one dimensional douche.
Because I do the same thing with woman.
The amount of stuff we project onto women in particular is almost unbelievable. The more of it you see, and the more of it that drops away, it will be impossible to fathom how much of a 'big deal' the topic was. You'll see things more as they are and stop trying to get things from them that they cannot possibly give you.
As long as you ascribe attributes to them like your sense of value, acceptance, love/approval, accomplishment, being a man, being good enough, being badass enough (ie "look everyone, look how much I don't care about women!") then it will be impossible to reach a level of peace and indifference. You will be a slave to some degree and telling yourself you aren't will just be posturing.