I was tired, sleepy, and asked my roommate if he could grab me a sack of mary jane from the dispensary and I would pay him back tonight. He said I would have to give him the money first.
I couldn't. I wasn't at home, and wouldn't be for another few hours.
That irked me a bit. I was angry at him for not being understanding.
I held that anger toward him for a couple minutes.
Then, I asked, "What is it that I'm really angry at?"
I wasn't angry at him. I was angry at the fact of having NO control over the situation and NOT getting what I wanted . I was projecting my anger onto him, and blaming him for it.
I didn't let it go, and see it was out of my hands.
I realized other don't necessarily have any power over you, until you GIVE them the power to irk you.
As soon as I saw that, my anger dissipated. It didn't vanish or anything, but it did lower in intensity tremendously.