Hey guys,
In todays world, if a guy is indifferent he is invisible, yes? When I'm out and about on a train or bus I watch the women around me. Even when a typical example of what would be considered an attractive man gets on nobody pays attention. Everyone is so wrapped up in their own shit they don't notice what is going on around them. So by being indifferent and not doing anything how does that actually allow a guy to improve his chances of attracting a woman?
Indifference to the outcome, now that I understand. You take an action, approach a girl at the bar for example, and you think 'I'll give her a chance to meet me, could be fun' and you're open to whatever unravels. Whether she rolls her eyes, has a short polite conversation with you, is smitten, etc.
Any thoughts?
In my opinion, except on extreme environments like train (excessive amoun of people, fear of disturbing others, of being disturbed, robbed ...) you can't be invisible.
Quick story :
Today I had to go to the post office.
20 minutes walk.
I almost wanted to post something because it's the TOTAL opposite of what you write.
From experience, people are in these categories during the day :
- people who look at everything and everyone that comes.
- people who are completely in their head.
- people who are in their head and some times something/someone catches their attention for a moment.
Anyways, almost 1 out of 2 (on the street) and 1 out of 5 (in their cars) looked at me.
Some just a quick glance, some a little longer like gauging me, some with a somewhat aggressive or defiant gaze, ...
Me ? I just look at everything that catches my attention (a pigeon, some windows, an old lady, ...), even though my peripherials catch everything else on the side.
I don't try to get attention (regular looks and clothes), just enjoying the walk, yet people look.
So, invisible ? Possible only in environments where people don't feel comfortable looking up ... (to add on Dali's comment, they would surely feel it, but are not comfortable enough to show it)
So by being indifferent and not doing anything how does that actually allow a guy to improve his chances of attracting a woman?
When you're indifferent, you're not wrapped in your own thoughts and can then notice other people's behaviour, your gut becomes accessible ... So that you know which women are attracted.
But as indifference is an indicator of underlying conditions, so is women being attracted to you only a side effect of you living your life, being yourself.
As flow said :
Permission to totally express yourself, exactly what you think and feel confidently, without filtering it out of deep fear/concern for what the reaction will be.
Beautiful.