Natural Freedom

I was reading this phenomenal article from this dude, a regular guy, who is a very good writer. I have to say he gets his points across very clearly.

http://lifestylejourney.blogspot.com/20 ... nking.html

Anyway, he points out a lot of the BS that I have been through personally. One of the key points he makes is the whole indifference concept and how tricky it can be. I know it has been this way for me, especially since it is talked about a lot in this forum and guys like The Kidd!, Peregrinus, Jake and Brent attribute it as part of their success with women.

Basically, coming from the mindset of being indifferent or carefree with the hidden motivation of meeting a woman's needs is a classic case of "don't think of a pink elephant."

The premise being, that if you have the goal or intention of being indifferent or carefree only to get some reaction from women, then you are really just putting a mask on your attachment. You are not truly carefree or indifferent.

The writer makes a very good point in saying that being indifferent and carefree got him positive reactions from women, but that it was no magic pill or instant sure fire way to have an abundance of attraction or "success" with women as there were still problems outside of his control.

However, it didn't matter as that was not his purpose or intent.

What I found the most striking about his article was this part: (I highly suggest you read the article in it's entirety to get the full context, since it's mainly about the fallacies of positive thinking and manifestation)
So, he learned that the real point is in taking care of your own shit for YOU and to make that decision consciously, because that is all it is, a decision. This is what The Kidd! and Peregrinus say as well.

The point of being indifferent or carefree is not to get more positive reactions from women. It's not about getting attraction, lays, girlfriends. It's about making a conscious choice to be happy and free for you, and not for what might result from that choice externally.

For some of you this might seem very obvious. But, I struggled with this concept a lot and it helps to put it in writing especially because most posts tend to focus on reactions from women from specific traits or behaviors.

Keep it real.

I like the whole post Diego, but the above just remains with me.

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"I'd rather have no bitch than a half a bitch" Iceberg Slim

Indeed

It is false and everyone will feel it. Yes.

Good post Diego

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Great article... If I would ever write an article, it would be 80% similar to this

Edit: I like this part especially. Mostly because I can think of a few girls, who were unattached, positive etcetera like we are (or are going to be) and there were the most attractive I can think of, I've ever come accross. And lot of guys shared my opinion.

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Really well worded post, thanks for sharing this

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"The heart is deep beyond all things, and it is the man. Even so, who can know him."

I love the title of your post. It pretty much says it all.

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There is no individual doer of any action or deed. Yet deeds are done and actions happen.