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It's a just a question of whether I like her or not, whether she is a girl I am prepared to spend any of my valuable time with.
Awesome progress bro. 
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| Author: | Matty [ Tue Jul 12, 2011 3:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Questions on CONfirmation |
I can look back at my life and come up with tons of examples of girls wanting me, girls I’ve been with etc. and find confirmation that girls definitely find me attractive. But what about the type of women that you might want, but have never noticed any signs of attraction from, or have any confirmation from? For example, if I’ve only ever gone out with girls who are ‘good looking’, but never been with any girls who I’d consider stunning, beautiful etc., how can I find confirmation of being attractive enough to get with these girls? I guess this is the reasoning behind affirmations. If you don’t expect beautiful girls to be attracted to you, they won’t be. If you need confirmation before you believe it, you’re out of luck if you’re not seeing it, so use affirmations to get your expectations up. I guess the other way is just work on yourself until you feel like you do actually deserve the type of girl you want, and then the evidence of that will show up. Would love to hear thoughts on this. |
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| Author: | Resonance [ Tue Jul 12, 2011 6:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation |
My thought is not give a fuck and keep it moving so what if she looks good, do you think that is the person you want to be with just because of she looks stunning..... Now don't get me wrong you definitely want to be attracted to the bitch but ultimately it all depends on what you are looking to accomplish with said prospect. |
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| Author: | peregrinus [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 10:53 am ] | |||
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I can look back at my life and come up with tons of examples of girls wanting me, girls I’ve been with etc. and find confirmation that girls definitely find me attractive.
if I’ve only ever gone out with girls who are ‘good looking’, but never been with any girls who I’d consider stunning, beautiful etc., how can I find confirmation of being attractive enough to get with these girls? To me these statements do not go together. You say in the first that you have confirmation, then in the second that you do not? What, really, is the difference between these two groups of women?
I guess the other way is just work on yourself until you feel like you do actually deserve the type of girl you want, and then the evidence of that will show up.
I suggest you do more reading on the forum.The only thing stopping you is your mind and your ego. What makes you think you do not deserve them? |
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| Author: | Sniper [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 11:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation |
peregrinus, your answer was very good. Matty, where are you from? |
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| Author: | Sai [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 5:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation |
Matty, Matty, you have already CONFIRMEDthat you are desirable by women! |
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| Author: | Azriel [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 5:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation |
He's aware that he's desirable to women, he wants to know how to get with women that he finds attractive instead of the average ones is what I'm getting, is this correct Matty? |
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| Author: | rant [ Wed Jul 13, 2011 5:30 pm ] | |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation | |
He's aware that he's desirable to women, he wants to know how to get with women that he finds attractive instead of the average ones is what I'm getting, is this correct Matty?
it's the same formula
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| Author: | Matty [ Thu Jul 14, 2011 1:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation |
OK thanks for the answers guys. What Aztec said summed it up. I feel that certain types of girls are attracted to me, but not necessarily the one's I prefer. Sniper, I'm English. |
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| Author: | Matty [ Thu Jul 14, 2011 1:31 pm ] | ||||
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I can look back at my life and come up with tons of examples of girls wanting me, girls I’ve been with etc. and find confirmation that girls definitely find me attractive.
if I’ve only ever gone out with girls who are ‘good looking’, but never been with any girls who I’d consider stunning, beautiful etc., how can I find confirmation of being attractive enough to get with these girls? To me these statements do not go together. You say in the first that you have confirmation, then in the second that you do not? What, really, is the difference between these two groups of women?
I guess the other way is just work on yourself until you feel like you do actually deserve the type of girl you want, and then the evidence of that will show up.
I suggest you do more reading on the forum.The only thing stopping you is your mind and your ego. What makes you think you do not deserve them? What makes me think I don't deserve them? I'm not sure, I'll need to think about that. |
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| Author: | Matty [ Fri Jul 15, 2011 10:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation |
There's no such thing as a 'hot' girl. A girl is a girl. From now on the words hot, gorgeous, stunning etc. are removed from my vocab. It's a just a question of whether I like her or not, whether she is a girl I am prepared to spend any of my valuable time with. |
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| Author: | Alchemist [ Fri Jul 15, 2011 3:27 pm ] | |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation | |
It's a just a question of whether I like her or not, whether she is a girl I am prepared to spend any of my valuable time with.
Awesome progress bro.
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| Author: | Sniper [ Fri Jul 15, 2011 5:52 pm ] | |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation | |
There's no such thing as a 'hot' girl. A girl is a girl.
Very good From now on the words hot, gorgeous, stunning etc. are removed from my vocab. It's a just a question of whether I like her or not, whether she is a girl I am prepared to spend any of my valuable time with. 
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| Author: | Star_Above [ Fri Jul 15, 2011 5:55 pm ] | ||
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation | ||
There's no such thing as a 'hot' girl. A girl is a girl.
Very good From now on the words hot, gorgeous, stunning etc. are removed from my vocab. It's a just a question of whether I like her or not, whether she is a girl I am prepared to spend any of my valuable time with. |
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| Author: | Sniper [ Fri Jul 15, 2011 10:44 pm ] | ||
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation | ||
There's no such thing as a 'hot' girl. A girl is a girl.
remember that the whole: hot, gorgeous, stunning etc. is just social conditioning. We let the media dictate to us what's hot and what's not. If we follow that path - it's not good for us.From now on the words hot, gorgeous, stunning etc. are removed from my vocab. It's a just a question of whether I like her or not, whether she is a girl I am prepared to spend any of my valuable time with. I had a problem with that as well here is the answer I got: http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... =21&t=1032 now the most importent thing is this:
and chances are that your actual TYPE isn't what you THINK IT IS.
after giving it some thought: I don't like Blonds that much and yet I always wanted reactions from Blonds. Why? because I was programed to think that this is the ideal beauty. But if I don't like Blonds than why the fuck should I care if I get their attention or not?because the media told me that this is the ideal?  I like Asian girls much more than blonds for example, in my country there are not Asian girls on the media (ever). So I should give up what I love and start wanting Blonds (what the media here shows the most) just because the media tells me that it is What 'I should want'? |
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| Author: | Dr. Awesome [ Sat Jul 16, 2011 8:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation |
Yes, this seems to be a very important point that I should take more serious, too. So, Matty, those words are gone for me too now  Brent Smith made a video about this too some months ago. He also advised to replace the words "hot, stunning etc." with "women I might hook up with". Reduces it to one category too. |
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| Author: | The GK [ Mon Jul 18, 2011 12:06 am ] | |
| Post subject: | Re: Questions on CONfirmation | |
remember that the whole: hot, gorgeous, stunning etc. is just social conditioning. We let the media dictate to us what's hot and what's not.
AND makeup! Watch a "hot" girl without any makeup and you might get nightmares about it later.
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