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I can look back at my life and come up with tons of examples of girls wanting me, girls I’ve been with etc. and find confirmation that girls definitely find me attractive.

But what about the type of women that you might want, but have never noticed any signs of attraction from, or have any confirmation from?

For example, if I’ve only ever gone out with girls who are ‘good looking’, but never been with any girls who I’d consider stunning, beautiful etc., how can I find confirmation of being attractive enough to get with these girls?

I guess this is the reasoning behind affirmations. If you don’t expect beautiful girls to be attracted to you, they won’t be. If you need confirmation before you believe it, you’re out of luck if you’re not seeing it, so use affirmations to get your expectations up.

I guess the other way is just work on yourself until you feel like you do actually deserve the type of girl you want, and then the evidence of that will show up.

Would love to hear thoughts on this.

My thought is not give a fuck and keep it moving so what if she looks good, do you think that is the person you want to be with just because of she looks stunning.....

Now don't get me wrong you definitely want to be attracted to the bitch but ultimately it all depends on what you are looking to accomplish with said prospect.

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Mr. Todo

To me these statements do not go together.

You say in the first that you have confirmation, then in the second that you do not?

What, really, is the difference between these two groups of women? I suggest you do more reading on the forum.

The only thing stopping you is your mind and your ego.

What makes you think you do not deserve them?

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peregrinus, your answer was very good.

Matty, where are you from?

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Matty, Matty,

you have already CONFIRMEDthat you are desirable by women!

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"I'd rather have no bitch than a half a bitch" Iceberg Slim

He's aware that he's desirable to women, he wants to know how to get with women that he finds attractive instead of the average ones is what I'm getting, is this correct Matty?

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Don't be sexist, bitches hate that.

it's the same formula

OK thanks for the answers guys.

What Aztec said summed it up. I feel that certain types of girls are attracted to me, but not necessarily the one's I prefer.

Sniper, I'm English.

Yeah you're right, it's all in my head, I realise that.

What makes me think I don't deserve them? I'm not sure, I'll need to think about that.

There's no such thing as a 'hot' girl. A girl is a girl.

From now on the words hot, gorgeous, stunning etc. are removed from my vocab.

It's a just a question of whether I like her or not, whether she is a girl I am prepared to spend any of my valuable time with.

Awesome progress bro.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

Very good

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Words to live by.

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The honey doesn't chase the bee.

A wise man once said "I find that a duck's opinion of me is influenced by whether or not I have bread."

remember that the whole: hot, gorgeous, stunning etc. is just social conditioning. We let the media dictate to us what's hot and what's not. If we follow that path - it's not good for us.
I had a problem with that as well here is the answer I got:

http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... =21&t=1032

now the most importent thing is this:
after giving it some thought: I don't like Blonds that much and yet I always wanted reactions from Blonds. Why? because I was programed to think that this is the ideal beauty. But if I don't like Blonds than why the fuck should I care if I get their attention or not?
because the media told me that this is the ideal?
I like Asian girls much more than blonds for example, in my country there are not Asian girls on the media (ever). So I should give up what I love and start wanting Blonds (what the media here shows the most) just because the media tells me that it is What 'I should want'?

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Yes, this seems to be a very important point that I should take more serious, too.

So, Matty, those words are gone for me too now

Brent Smith made a video about this too some months ago. He also advised to replace the words "hot, stunning etc." with "women I might hook up with". Reduces it to one category too.

AND makeup! Watch a "hot" girl without any makeup and you might get nightmares about it later.