TheDude wrote: * | Sun Oct 16, 2022 6:16 pm |
This also made me think of how American cultural resonates with this look down at yourself attitude to push yourself. You're no good, you suck self talk, you need to do better type of thing. That really got me curious since I grew up here and can see that.
I'm curious to know what everyone else thinks?
Different things can be useful for different people at different times in different ways.
What works for me won't always work for you, it won't even always work for me.
Track the effects — both short and long term.
Clearly he knows how to motivate himself.
Anyways, it's not what you say — it's how you say it; how you mean it; how you experience it — its more how your
relationship with yourself is.
Think of a couple of dude's who give each other hell — but have a good relationship with each other, vs an evil stepmother type, who might say nice things but it makes your skin crawl.
If you're got your back, you can say things in many different ways if you know and feel your intention. If you really don't, you can say nice affirmations and feel like a dick.
Having your own back, believing in yourself, imo is a kind choice. Leap of faith. Decision.
Doesn't mean it's all rosy. Relationships take time.