Also the society in both SF and Thailand seems to be more "be happy right now" type of thinking and being. I think these societies support indifference where as our society tells us that we must acquire and consume things in order to happy which makes dating a lot harder since we're so much more needy as a result.
Great points Seek, esp. this one. I noticed that a lot of women in the west feel attraction for a guy but then they say: Oh but he is not rich, he does not have a nice car, he is not tall enough, etc....
then, their logic is not allowing them to flow with what they are feeling.
I'd like to make two points regarding your post and let me know your thoughts:
1. When you have a girl friend that you love it automaticly makes you indifferent (assuming all is going well in the relationship....). So women pick up that you are really indifferent and not just acting.
2. This is not true for everyone but I heard two guys who came back from Thailand and had success with western women over there. I asked them what changed, they said:
In Thailand we don't give a shit if we get rejected by western women, cause when you go to a bar you have Thai women all over you and you can get laid without any effort. While here in Israel we don't have that option so we are less indifferent to the outcome.
(I don't agree with them, I think that a person can be indifferent even if he does not get laid. not getting laid does not mean you are going to die...
. But I can understand why these guys who really wanted sex could still be very indifferent while picking up western women in Thailand)
What do you think?