the people who gravitate towards unhealthy, violent porn, are people who already have a disposition towards violence. So—the problem is not in the porn, but in those people. Regulating porn access really is going to have no impact on these people as they can (and do) find far more violent and graphic images in mainstream Hollywood films like "Saw."

It is getting increasingly difficult to find men in our society, who’ve never viewed pornography.

Having a high-libido is not a bad thing. In fact, one of the things I often argue is that men (and women) who like sex have changed this world, and made it better. Rock stars, politicians, military leaders and sports stars often tend to be people with high libidos, and a high desire to succeed. Sometimes, they actually want to succeed, just so they can have lots of sex.

I’m sad to say that our society has not taught men how to identify and negotiate their sexual desires or needs. We treat sex like a dirty secret. Then, when men get caught, they feed into that dirty secret mentality, and treat sex like it’s the problem

the people who gravitate towards unhealthy, violent porn, are people who already have a disposition towards violence. So—the problem is not in the porn, but in those people. Regulating porn access really is going to have no impact on these people as they can (and do) find far more violent and graphic images in mainstream Hollywood films like "Saw."

But women actually have a stronger physiological response to porn than men and based upon this research, women should be more addicted to pornography than men.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

I'd recommend looking through that website. Lot's of interesting stuff there.

I read that Washington was impotent and coped with it by his military achievements. The topic of sexual arousal/energy influencing the need (want) to achieve things in life is interesting

When you blame the problems on porn, you’re telling yourself “porn is more powerful than I am.” ................... Porn's not the problem - you are. But you know what? You're also the solution.

we all feel like sometimes, we might do something stupid or self-destructive, when sex is involved. But, this false belief is dangerous, and ultimately not helpful. Because when people buy into the belief that porn is addictive, it changes the argument, and all of a sudden, it seems like it is porn and sex that are the problems. Porn addiction becomes a label, and seems to be an explanation, when in fact, it is just meaningless words and platitudes that distract from the real issue. But sex and porn aren’t the problems. You are.

I am starting to experience that all of our problems with sex (mine, at least) stem from seeing it as dirty and a problem. In fact, I now see this as one of the possible roots of sexual jealousy. Will elaborate on this in a separate post so that anyone not interested in my rantings can ignore it.

The energy is there in raw form.. it is not inherently "sex" energy, that association is just made from a very early age.. it is actually the same energy of life/creativity and the 'channeling' of it or 'transmutation' of it is more of a mental concept. The better you get at focusing more deeply on the task at hand, the energy will be directed into that thing.

I think in general, with a million factors involved from diet to education to technology, many people no longer have any idea what it is to truly, deeply focus on something (and/or, do not have something in their life they feel is worthy of deep focus) and so are constantly distracted by "sex energy" because sex is one of the few things left that is still connected to that feeling of our nature in a very raw way -- and with our natural drive as men it's the strongest and most obvious distraction.

If you see it as this big prize to be won, a tool for manipulation etc then you are going to see the world in a very different way.

being happy and content alone is actually your NATURE when you are in touch with your nature. Then of course things are in balance and it's not a big deal to have women in your life when you want- your choice. The irony is staggering.

“It is not a daily increase, but a daily decrease. Hack away at the inessentials.” - Bruce Lee

More & more i'm experiencing that the world functions as a reflection of HOW I SEE IT.

Mirror!

rape, submission, hardcore, gangbang, ... where woman is TOTALLY submissive and taken, and opposite.

Good taste, bdsm movies stimulates my creativity.

Like everything, external objects are just reflections of inner conflicts ... good reminder, and good topic that might tingle something in some people


Side note : Just strolled down a torrent site (with porn if you're 18+), more than half of it (based on the title) was about either rape, submission, hardcore, gangbang, ... where woman is TOTALLY submissive and taken, and opposite.

Made me giggle and cry at the irony of it