I haven't as much trouble with this as you guys. Most of it faded when I started observing and I discovered most women want me on some level or another and not as a affirmation. As what I see in front of me in objective reality. So I don't know, I think its mostly just you blocking it yourself and the way to get by that is to observe which women actually like you.
Like you Morpheus I can see that alot of women want me or at the very least the way I look but I've made the mistake before of misinterpreting mixed signals, recently a big mistake when I was certain I was getting the green light from her to make a move, she was wrong on all levels anyway but from that experience I've had to break down what I interpret as definite signs of interest, I came to the conclusion that I don't know for sure and I won't until I get more experience.
I know women are subtle communicators but it would help if they made some more effort, I'm not worried about that anymore though, it's more important for me to genuinely like myself than it is to get women.