As for the second one, it's been a long time coming guys, girls are dressing sexier younger, the fact that their mothers who grew up in a post-feminism outbreak era (I see it like a zombie outbreak) are letting it happen to their daughters because they don't know any better, what can we really do about it?.
They are not 'just' letting it happen, they are positively encouraging it, if you pay attention to them.
'I dont like men who treat us like sex objects' but hey, its fine for me to dress up my daughter like a stripper/whore/tramp - anyone see the mixed message here?
They dress up like objects then act offended when treated like them.
They also act offended when you do not view them in that way.
I had one on this friday night, sauntered up to the bar, stood next to me - I am standing there admiring the scenery and my pint of Bishops Finger (On as a guest beer, really nice pint of beer that deserves appreciation while drinking as I do not get it often round here) attention not on her at all.
She turns to face me, full on, looks at me and says "Aren't you going to chat me up?" full off attitude and stress, voice was full of it.. Almost like a man challenging me, quite funny really, I had to restrain myself from bursting into laughter. She looked like a petulant child who was being ignored.
I smiled and had a small chuckle out loud, looked at her, in a 'I am paying attention now' way, she is really dressed to get attention, very tense and full of stress, I said 'Should I?', she was like 'All the rest do' to which I paused and looked at her again, really looked deeply into her, being present with her, then slowly said 'Breathe deeply and relax' , no anger or side, quite clam and even, totally present with her
Then I watched as she did, she tried to fight it, it was quite visible but I held my gaze and could see her just relax as I was present with her as she tried to relax. This took what seemed like minutes but was probably about 30-40 seconds if that.
We then went on to have a pleasant conversation for about 40 minutes, at which point I had to leave, she made sure to say she would grab me next time I was around.
During the time we were chatting several of her friends came up and tried to drag her back into their energy and frame and she batted them away, she managed to maintain her state and got more and more natural and relaxed, it was very visible both to her and me, she commented on it several times how she was not used to feeling that way, she was usually so wound up all the time.