Not sure why this is directed solely at myself.
I hereby invite others to comment on these posts.
in the book she talks about the fact that a man has two 'instincts':
1. the sex instinct
2. the Protective & nurturing instinct
I tend to agree with Esther on this point.
If I look back, most of the women I have known have appealed to one, the other or both of these.
The ones that tried
to appeal to both failed the hardest.
if a woman chooses number 1 and the man doesn't fall for it she will choose number 2.
It seems that way, however that is a tricky line.
She is more likely to try #2 and then fallback to #1 when that doesnt work. In my view.
Either approach is littered with issues and problems. As mixing the two up leads to a confusing vibe both for her and for you.
I have had ones who have tried #2 then #1
I have not met any who tried #1 then #2
If she goes for #1, she goes for #1.
Also some part of me feels that they are incompatible... Or at the best the #2 comes from the man naturally, if a woman plays to that it is quite obvious to me, it also puts me off.. I do not want a pet to care for.
In order to activate number 2 (the Protective & nurturing instinct of a man) she will act like a little girl or as someone weak who needs protection & nurturing.
well, this is pretty obvious. How else would she activate #2?
Let me see:
She might put herself in a position of real or false danger, expecting you to rescue her.
Tell you sob stories.
Or any other number of things.
Did I get it right?
I sense black and white thinking here.
You got it wrong. Your logic is flawed.
Do not take what she wrote so literally.
You are joining up the dots by skipping steps... Go back and read the post I wrote about flawed logic and the traps it can set for you.
Think about it in terms of people and situations you have lived through, analyse them through observation of your history. Look at situations that have been posted on the board and pick which instinct was being played on. There are examples of this all around you.