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If you've been like me then you've probably taken a lot from the forum. I haven't given back to the forum in a little bit. So, I got something new for that ass.
THE PRINCIPLES OF FRIENDSHIP
I don't know about you, but I'm not looking to go steady, have a committed relationship, have a girlfriend, fiance, or wife. Instead, I'm looking for a down female that can be my friend. The principles of friendship go hand in hand with men as well as women. I tell women that are in relationships that I can be the best friend you've ever had, but I'm not looking to be a boyfriend.
1. Expression
Language is a mechanism to express yourself and your feelings, emotions, etc. What you think and believe are put in front of other people to choose what they like. Over time people become adjusted to what you think and feel.
2. Ends
Everything that you say and do has an end. Know what you are trying to accomplish. Most people react to what you say and think. You are a cause not an effect.
3. Challenge/submission
Everything is not black and white. There is a gray scale. Interacting with people and especially women will cause you to challenge, fight, or submit to that person. Thus, in the process of friendship a contract and negotiation is created. Your will is your power.
4. Assistance
The person that submits and negotiates with you will tend to align their self with your ideals. Your dream and your imagination become your power through challenges and conflict. This is one of the reasons why women test you. They don't just want to give up their power to assist to any old person. Using assistance allows you to accomplish more. Get creatives for the second principle, your ends.
5. Space
When space increases your alignment with your friend can decrease. Space creates the opportunity to recreate the balance of power that caused the person to align with you. When space increases realignment can be difficult. Thus, draining the person power in challenges is important. Capitalize on space and you capitalize on the person.
6. Challenge Reduction
Over time the alignment of individuals will cause conflict to decrease. When proper ends are realized there is less reason to challenge. There is less reason to increase space. There is less reason to alter the power dynamic. So, finishing the way that you started is important because you will minimize the new factors on the relationship.
7. Contract
Expectations will be built from the first six principles implicitly or explicitly. Explicit expectations can be just as powerful as implicit expectations. The feature of explicit expectations is that the party has to knowingly break the contract. Implicit expectations can viewed in hindsight as different then their reality through backwards rationalization. Because implicit expectations can be vague they can be reinterpreted by the offending party. Usually women.
Theory
1. Amplifying Dependence
You can amplify a person's dependence or attraction to you through your attitude. The strength of your reality weighs down upon the weakness of their reality. There must be coherence between the way two people are interacting with each other. If a woman is talking to you emotionally then you must talk to her emotionally. If a woman is talking to you logically then you should talk to her logically. In both events, the similarity between methods of communication based upon the strength of the person's reality influences dependence. Generally, you will have positive results if you do this correctly. This also works well when you have an argument. Stick to emotional arguments when there are emotional arguments, and logical arguments when there are logical arguments.
More will be said about this.
Example: I was chopping this bitch up and she was talking really emotionally and thinking with her pussy. So, I started thinking with my dick. The more I talked. The more this bitch's attitude towards me amplified. She isolated both of us right by a pole so that no one could come between us. I didn't fuck the bitch, but the principle is still there. Handling a woman correctly can amplify the attitude that she takes towards you. My frame of reality is also very strong so I had no problem influencing her reality.
2. Primping and Engineering
You can get a woman or a man to accept and think what you want them to think by leading them up to the idea. The concept is to imagine whatever you want them to accept.
Example: If you want a female to start thinking about calling you up and taking your number then you should do as follows. Engineer the proper topic. Talk about doing some thing that you might like. If she bites on the subject and likes what you're talking about then talk about your availability to do your activity by yourself. If she doesn't outright ask for you number and she is still choosing then tell her to take your number down so she can call you because she likes doing XYZ. You engineering an event, a time frame, and a reason for the two you to continue speaking. By doing what I said, you have primped her. You made minor adjustments to the way she was thinking to cause her to think about contacting you.
This is primping and engineering by association.
You can also primp and engineer by repetition. If lots of people call or text you then you can passively primp and engineer. The repetition of phone calls and texts will get her to think about texting and calling you. Alternatively, you can mention texting and calling multiples in your conversation.
This is primping and engineering by repetition.
3. Reciprocation
Reciprocation is crucial to any friendship. Over reciprocation is deadly. Whenever I have a female do something for me I always replace what she gives me. The important point is the quantity that I reciprocate. I do not reciprocate a whole lot, but I make sure the quality of my reciprocation will make them remember. Many times, sex or conversation is the best reciprocation for a woman doing something for you. However, giving out sex or conversation every time is boring. You should seek to keep the person guessing as to how and when you are going to reciprocate, but the person must believe that you are going to reciprocate in some fashion even if they say they don't want anything in return.
Personally: I let women know up front that all I have is good and conversation.
4. Scarcity
Scarcity is important to making a woman or friend act on their intentions. Letting the person know that you aren't going to be around forever and waiting on them will cause them to act on their intentions. You do this explicitly or implicitly. Explicitly you can tell a woman that you can hang out or something but you're generally busy. Implicitly, you can show a woman that you're not waiting on her.
For example: If you're at a party and talk to a girl that you think might choose you then walk away from her. Go talk to other people at the party. Walking away increases your value in her eyes. Scarcity always increases value. If other women approach you and the woman sees then the scarcity principle's effects are amplified. If you talk to other women at the party then the principle is less effective, but the principle still works.
5. Simon Says
If you tell a person to do something and they comply then you have influenced them. The more times you get a person to comply with your message then the more times they will be likely to obey a greater request.
6. Copycat
People are like chameleons. They obey and follow the dominant person. Many times a person will show you that they are able to be influenced by you through copying your speech. If you listen to the way they are copying you then they might be seeking approval. Withholding your approval can add power to your requests. Giving your approval can also have the same effect. The reason that giving your approval can have the same effect as not giving your approval is because people are vane.
Think cat string theory. Fuck the ball of string. We're looking at the cat. A person will approval comes in two ways, above and below. Submissive approval is of no use to you. You are receiving submissive approval through a person seeking approval from you. This is how the person that seeks approval fills their need for vanity. The second way approval comes is by giving approval from above. This is the way you should give approval. The copycat wants a realistic assessment from above. In this way, you confirm their beliefs about their self in the world. It obeys the laws of reality. A fair assessment and approval can go a long way. This holds true for men and women.
7. Balance
Power in a friendship or any relationship is given to the person that controls the balance of power. Thus, the person that is least interested in the relationship is the person with the most power. This person should be you. Learning to walkaway is a good thing.
Future topics: The next topics will "get rude" or "get polite", "projection", "mystery/statements", "teasing/perversion", "suppresion", and "Flight" plus "laughter"
THE BASICS OF VERBAL MANIPULATION, DISCIPLINE, AND PUNISHMENT: HANDBOOK OF VERBAL KUNGFOO
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