Give her the gift of:
Having the space to express her feelings and emotions (without you taking ownership of them)
Not having to deal with a deluge of emotions from you
Desiring you more than you desire her
Being more attracted to you than you are to her
Being more invested in you than you are in her
Being more aroused by you than you are by her
Being more committed to you than you are to her
Missing you
Wanting you
Wondering how much you are into her
Telling her off (calmly and unemotionally) when she does something wrong
Keeping strong boundaries and sticking to them
Treating her like a silly girl when she acts like one
Treating her like a naughty girl when she acts like one
Rewarding her when she does good
Not rewarding behaviours that you dislike
Encouraging her to do things away from you
Doing things away from her
Doing things YOU want to do that she does not want to do, because YOU want to do them
Doing things she suggests only IF you actually want to do them also
Not having you on the end of the phone 24/7
Being unavailable sometimes because you are occupied with other things
Wanting to spend more time with you than she can
Still talking to other women when you are with her
Still Flirting with women and letting them flirt with you
Hi peregrinus.
Can you
give some
practical advice in
the red marked ones?
Because I'm still a little bit nervous/anxious when talking to a girl I desire physically. In
the past I used to "pretend" I don't like
her, and I acted hard to get, only to discover she's got fed up from my "prince game", and
the she end fucking with other dude. I guess I want to be balanced, let me explain; being capable
of flirt with
her and playing, but at
the same time man enough to seal
the deal.
Am I explainig well?
OR
How to get to a place
of not pretending I don't want
her (because I wanted
her),
instead
Being geniunley in a place
of don't want
her, and not regreting if It didn't happen.
I'm shure you would recommend me to let go
of the regret
of my past interactions and
the seemingly 'lost' I had because I didn't end hook up with this chicks, but another dude. This is
the place I want to be, detacched yet willing to hook up with
her.
Thanks.