i guess you misunderstood what i wrote. I didn't assume anything about the forum or its members. I said that since women and having success with them is a main topic here and many members said what they think about it in different posts, i would like to say what i think too. I said that most guys "i know" are obsessed with sex, and by that i meant to talk in general, i didn't refer to the forum or its members. If i think that sex obsession is wrong, and if i saw that this forum and its members were all about sex obsession, then i wouldn't have joined and posted here my friend.
well, that didn't get me or anyone else any success. If I stop to think about money: will that mean that I'll have more money?
By success i take it you mean success with women. No, to stop thinking about women and sex won't bring you any success with women, and the same thing about money for example. I didn't write that as a method to have success with women, but as a way to have a much happier life in my opinion ofcourse, especially for those who have sex obsession (as i mentioned i'm talking in general). Sex obsession makes men very weak against women. Most of the guys i know are being totally controlled by women, they do really alot just to have the chance to spend time with women (!!), and when they do and get to sleep with them, they get bored after short time and start looking for other women.
Neither do women deserve all of this, nor is this type of behaviour right. The reason for this is that such men want sex too much. That's why i mentioned balance. Because i take it that men want sex to be happy, and sex can bring great lasting happiness in one case only, intimacy. Since men want sex too much that they would sleep with a girl they barely know, or that they would sleep with a girl just because she's "hot" and not because they have feelings for her, then this means they would never reach intimacy. That's why they keep changing from woman to woman, which only makes it worse.
The solution for this, or at least a way to make it possible to experience intimacy (and thus to have the happiness those men are looking for), is to balance the lust for sex. First, this will give you time to enjoy other things in life. Second, it will not have your emotions drained. A serious long lasting intimate relationship requires as much emotions as possible. How to balance the lust for sex? Stop thinking about it (or at least think about it less).
I see having power and choice with women a goal to conquer (if I can say it like that)
I think we can say that we set goals to conquer and achieve, in order to be happy, is that right? If we achieve a certain goal, and weren't happy in the end, then this means that this step we took isn't a right step to happiness. Let me ask you, how many happy men do you know (happy with the women issue i mean)? Even if we look at us members of the forum, if we were really happy and satisfied with the women issue, do you think we would be all here looking for our natural freedom?
I will simplify what i think in the following, and i think it is for all men but especially for the sex obsessed ones (i think it also applies for sex obsessed women):
too much sex lust -----> having sex with a woman only for her body -----> having sex with low emotions -----> no intimate experience -----> guy gets bored -----> no happiness -----> guy looks for a new girl -----> having had sex with another a short while ago, guy can't really have emotion for this girl after this short time -----> having sex with low emotions, and it goes on this way.
not thinking about women or sex (for long time i mean, a couple of days or weeks would bring nothing) -----> guy has much more emotions -----> guy meets a girl and has emotions/feelings for her -----> chance of an intimate relationship is very high -----> emotions lead not only to intimate sex but to an intimate relationship -----> happiness much greater, so great that the relationship lasts.
Edit: you said women don't talk\think about men
beleive me they do!!!
when they talk with their girlfriends and stuff it's always about men.
they do, but never as much as we do about them.