Maybe this could be described with one word - confidence. When you believe in yourself and know that you are the shit then you got this "power". That's why we talked a lot about pimps and pimp tight mentality, those guys knew that they are the best, they didn't want to be nobody else.
Idk I've been thinking of this lately, when I try take the mentality of being 'the best' or that 'confidence' = power — I find myself get disconnected from other people, get in my head rather than the moment, and.. become kind of stiff and unfriendly. Speaking for myself here and my own experiments: but my thinking is that confidence isn't a feeling or thinking you're 'the best'; it's just really being okay with yourself with all your feelings/flaws... including not feeling confident at times and not thinking you're the best at all. Just me - I understand if it works for other people, but psyching myself up to feel like the shit / or having to think I'm 'the best' / or needing to be really 'confident' all on some level have this message: "you need to be different than you are".
Was at the climbing gym earlier tonight, lots of people. Lots of guys and girls. And I just know that I'm not the best - I'm just one of the many. And that's fine - not every girl is going to choose me, but there are more than enough that will. When I'm trying to keep to the 'I'm the best' mentality though I realise that I'm actually trying to control the outcome, and make others like/ want me because of it.
Just trying to figure this out myself too, just sharing my current thinking
She talks about showing anger and how attractive that is. These days I wonder if that trait is weakness or strength. I was planning to make a thread about that topic. Getting angry = emotional = not calm under pressure. I'm ok when you need to defend yourself but I was always kind of unresponsive, non reactive on provocations and many other stuff. I always thought that if you give your attention and get upset when they "poke" you, you lose. My attention was always expensive, I don't give it cheaply. I would like to know how you guys think about this.
I agree with you. I think she meant that she really appreciates when a guy just is himself: if he's really angry and expresses it authentically. I don't think there is a hard and fast rule though — if you're really unaffected by the shenanigans than that's a sign of power or indifference, and if you're really angry about something and you express it so is that. I guess my thinking is that the strength is in the authenticity — being bothered could say there's something I need to work on to get over it, or that there behaviour really isn't something acceptable to me.
To Add: You are 'the best' always and anyways.. 'the best Moltisanti' / 'the best Hineini'.. that's the place I want to focus too: on being the best me that I can be. I can behind that 100%.