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The Stifled Man / Definition of Manhood
The Stifled Man

©Chase Hughes. 2010


We’re in life-threatening trouble.

In one word, men today are stifled.

We’ve carried our completely unconscious concepts of manhood and masculinity with us from childhood without a ‘gate keeper’ to let us know that our beliefs about what a man is and should be are highly inaccurate. Most men will live their whole lives without knowing that they’ve carried this roadmap with them since childhood.

What does ‘stifled’ mean? His natural emotions and behaviors are held in check with difficulty, his animal desires are smothered and suppressed, his confidence and masculinity is suffocated and his sense of true manhood is held back by some invisible force. This is especially true in the presence of large social groups where the fear of public and social judgment hits its high points. His entire being is stifled; his breathing, speaking, walking, relationships and life habits have been nearly suffocated by the fear of judgment and the false lessons and ideas that have unknowingly been with him all his life. Muscles are tensed up throughout his day and he is ever-contemplative of his behavior and how others will react to it. He is analytical about his interactions with other men; this is where the boyish disease of homophobia takes hold of most insecure men, wondering (worrying) if the other guy is more ‘alpha’ than he is and trying to forcibly establish his role amongst other men. This modern uprise of homophobia in young men has caused men to stop looking to fellow men for help and deep-level, authentic friendship. Women have been left to assume the roles as men’s confidants and therapists; making women the SINGLE source of intimacy, spiritual growth, and most importantly, validation. Like children, being called a faggot or a sissy has more offending power than ever before and is a tremendous blow to the psyche of a stifled man. These un-masculine fears we have of social ridicule or character insult by other men causes men to keep only women in their intimate confidence. It drives men away from other men. Men keep all of their conversational topics on the top surface level of life; my boat, my car, my adventure, my girlfriend and my house…never anything deeply meaningful, soulful or emotional; a true life of quiet and hidden desperation and loneliness. And when men feel this way and look around at their friends, everyone else seems to be doing alright, so they don’t talk about it, leave it alone, stuff it down and keep the ‘act like a man’ face on. However, in reality, their male friends are going through and feeling the exact same thing. The fear keeps a tight lid on their masculinity. Trying to act like a man has stuffed us even further into the pit of boyhood.

When tragedies happen, ‘men’ hide with women and ‘wait for help to come along’. Students across the country are being told to simply hide under their desks while their classmates are being murdered. The one thing that every horrible tragedy has in common is that everyone who was hiding or fearful was frantically wondering who was going to put a stop to it. ‘Who is going to take charge?’ Where are the men? When a plane crashes on a desert isle, a hundred and fifty people NATURALLY follow one man’s lead, even if they’ve never met before. What causes this? What makes an entire group of strangers spontaneously select the same man to lead or give advice? What’s terrifying is the dwindling number of these men in the world. We’ve become sick, as a group. We’re a sensitive bunch, so we don’t like much to hear about this stuff, but it’s true. The ‘calling’ of true, authentic manhood is becoming lost in time.

Guys today have become obsessed with paintball, ultimate fighting, sports, martial arts, ‘hero’ movies, James Bond and video games that entail simulated combat. Think about the uprising of all these things within the past decade. And with the rise of all of this, what kind of commercials have dominated the media landscape? The idiot male looking past a group of gorgeous women…mesmerized by a bottle of beer. The dufus. This truly speaks to our culture today. We’re all looking for that transformative experience that will finally push us over the edge into manhood, or at least give us a temporary high of testosterone so we FEEL like a man; we can get our fix and sort of confirm our ability to still kick ass. Using these ‘safe’ avenues to express our masculine desires of killing, fighting and ravishing multiple women, then turning off the playstation or TV and returning to our unknowingly boyish, homophobic and depressed lifestyle…failing to actually be a man at all. I think manhood today is in a state of great confusion. And confused men tend to settle for FAR less in life than authentic men do.

One of the recurring sentiments of men today is depression. When we were boys, we had a whole range of dreams and fantasies about adult life…about life as a MAN. How amazing everything would be! How much LIFE I’ll get out of living as a MAN! Now, with the settling in after college and the heavy burden of bills, finances, employment, and responsibility we start to get depressed. All those things that were promised to us haven’t happened. This heavy burden of being an adult starts to sort of settle over our spirit. The things we thought would bring us REAL satisfaction and joy don’t. The people we thought we’d meet, we didn’t. It starts to feel like life kind of lost the exuberance and joy we had as children.

The recent history of the women’s movement has also caused men to seek intimacy with only women and have intimate/deep conversations with their women only. It has forced men away from having meaningful and supportive intimate conversations with each other, making women the ONE single source for validation, growth and intimacy. This is a big deal.

Men have been completely trained and programmed from an early age that we need to have nice clothes, a new car, some cool cologne, a nice haircut, good designer logos on our shirts, no pimples, white teeth, a fake tan, big shiny muscles and we can’t forget a cool watch and shoes. When we were children, all of our heroes we saw on TV would advertise products. As children, we didn’t scrutinize that at all. It was soaked in and we started to understand that having gear equals success, friends, fitting in and getting noticed. Notice a trend here? Which one of these can you get without spending money somewhere? None. The ad agencies have figured out that life is one big mating ritual and they can get weak men to believe anything if they frame it with sexy women as an end result to buying the product. Read that last sentence one more time.

The feminist movement gave birth to the modern men’s movement, wherein men try to get in touch with their feminine sides. Listen closely, and remember this…you are already more in touch with your feminine side than any of your ancestors have EVER been. We have been completely feminized in the recent past. The feminist movement was a great thing when they started pushing for equality. We ARE equal. Actually, I think women are a little better than us. But the thing that broke us all was one single word that changed everything: “SAMENES”. This is where our recent problems as men began. The feminists pushed ‘sameness’ down everyone’s throats. Forcing men to pretend like women are no different than they are. We are different. Women NEED us to be different. They don’t need another girlfriend.

Young boys are more violent and confused than ever; staring other boys down, trying to subordinate other males for their own sense of masculine identity. They’re confused about life and what it really means to be a man, and having no clear definition of manhood causes them to adopt their own ideas. Raised by their mothers, and guided by feminized fathers, they have no calling to manhood. Terms like ‘bitches’ and ‘hos’ have replaced the names of girls all together. So how do young boys learn what real men are? They watch TV, music videos, action movies, porn, UFC and whatever they can. One needs to look no further than our current youth to confirm this entirely. The power women have over boys and men today has caused men to need constant reassurance that they are better than women are, leading to degrading locker room talk and disrespectful behavior towards women. Boys today have no roadmap to authentic masculinity and leadership. ‘Bruised ego syndrome’ is the norm instead of the exception lately. They are in a crisis of development. All the beliefs and ideals they have about manhood, no matter how unrealistic, crazy or chauvinistic will be carried with them into adulthood and stay there forever, causing serious problems in their life, and in society. In the words of Margaret Mead, “The central focus of any society is to define appropriate roles for its men.”

You’ve heard the ever-popular phrase, “My wife will kill me…” Now that men have shirked their responsibilities as leaders and fathers, women are literally left to assume the masculine roles in the family; literally taking on the roles of the killer and the provider for their families: making decisions, running the household and disciplining children. Men have learned throughout their life that if they defer most of their decisions to women, they have to be happy. ‘If I can just let her decide what to do in all of our situations, there’s no way she’ll get upset. If I take a strong lead, it might offend her or piss her off.’ Ask a woman how attractive this is.

This is life today: NO MORE REAL MEN.

This is the RED PILL…

As you read these words and realize that it’s all true. Try to remember WHEN you changed or how men have changed as a whole. It has been so eloquently packaged that no one seemed to really notice the transition taking place.

What is a man?

What does it mean to be a man?

What does it look like?

Is there a prototype?

Is there an ACTUAL definition of manhood?

Ask a thousand ‘men’ on the street and you will get a thousand answers. The reason you won’t get anything concrete is because the definition has been lost in time. No one knows what it means anymore. Not even a dictionary carries the definition. It has been lost like the secret gospels. A real man has unwavering character, an energy people can actually feel, women remember him…almost forever. He has very close male friends. When you look at a real man, you can sense his satisfaction with life and his humility about it simultaneously.

I present to you, the working definition of manhood.

Being a man is a BURDEN.

A man is more responsible, leading, mature, in control and honest than his woman is. He lives by a specific code of honor. His values are set in stone and his life is lived in devotion to his ‘calling’.

He is a leader. His courage and bravery are unquestionable.

A man never puts another man down, always mentoring, leading and supporting. He enjoys the company of other men and is genuinely interested in other people.

A man is not afraid of death; he understands that life is a continual process of dying. He knows that he will never actually reach full release from this burden; that he will die in the process of giving his all to his calling in life.

A man is the leader of his family and serves as a role model to his wife and children. He thinks two steps ahead and is always planning for his family and himself. His woman looks up to him and admires his character. A man NEVER disrespects a woman, and does not tolerate other men that do so. He will fight to the bloody death to protect and defend his woman.

A man is honest, knowing that if he must tell the truth no matter what, that it will govern his actions accordingly.

A real man takes action and rejects passivity. He is able to take charge, bearing the burden of authentic manhood and giving himself, even to the point of personal destruction in the defense of loved ones, his calling and even his country.

A man is mature. He needs no emotional or social validation from the world or his woman. His validation comes automatically from within as a result of genuine manhood.

A man is aware of and unapologetic for his true nature as a killer and an animal. He bears the burden of the defense of others and does not apologize for his desires as a man.

Other men are naturally inclined to follow his lead and learn from him, and he accepts this responsibility willingly and joyfully.

It is a BURDEN that a man accepts and shoulders willingly, until his death.

Pickup artists around the world are still trying to figure out what I’m about to tell you.

Guys have become completely engulfed in trying to figure out the right things to say, the right way to hold your drink, the perfect body language etc. All in an attempt to take their power back from women and be the selector instead of the selected. The lines, gimmicks, techniques, routines and gambits may work for a few hours, but you must remember that women don’t hold the key or the power. While trying to figure out what women need to see and hear to sleep with a man, we have lost sight of our own manhood. The qualities a woman is looking for are the qualities of an authentic man. We’ve spent so much time trying to figure women out and the PROBLEM is within us. Our own lack of masculinity has led to the power transfer to women. The things women say and do in a bar when they are talking to a guy are only tests to get a sense of his capacity for authentic masculinity.


All of the pickup routines and lines are ways to FALSELY indicate the presence of strong masculinity in men who don’t actually have it.

The real man lives on a different planet than other men. He is happy almost every day, people respond to him COMPLETELY different than other guys, women are naturally and automatically attracted to him and people can feel his presence when he enters a room.



This is only the surface.

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PostPosted: Sat Nov 03, 2012 7:07 pm 
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Matthias: Mr. Hauser, What is it you want?
Doug Quaid: I want to help you.
Matthias: That is not the only reason you are here.
Doug Quaid: I want to remember.
Matthias: Why?
Doug Quaid: So I can be myself, be who I was.
Matthias: It it each man's quest to find out who he truly is but the answer to that lies in the present, not in the past. As it is for all of us.
Doug Quaid: But the past tells us who we've become.
Matthias: The past is a construct of the mind. It blinds us. It fools us into believing it. But the heart wants to live in the present. Look there. You'll find your answer.
Total Recall (2012)

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 04, 2012 1:28 am 
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Only part that I found interesting was:
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A man is more responsible, leading, mature, in control and honest than his woman is. He lives by a specific code of honor. His values are set in stone and his life is lived in devotion to his ‘calling’.

He is a leader. His courage and bravery are unquestionable.

A man never puts another man down, always mentoring, leading and supporting. He enjoys the company of other men and is genuinely interested in other people.

A man is not afraid of death; he understands that life is a continual process of dying. He knows that he will never actually reach full release from this burden; that he will die in the process of giving his all to his calling in life.

A man is the leader of his family and serves as a role model to his wife and children. He thinks two steps ahead and is always planning for his family and himself. His woman looks up to him and admires his character. A man NEVER disrespects a woman, and does not tolerate other men that do so. He will fight to the bloody death to protect and defend his woman.

A man is honest, knowing that if he must tell the truth no matter what, that it will govern his actions accordingly.

A real man takes action and rejects passivity. He is able to take charge, bearing the burden of authentic manhood and giving himself, even to the point of personal destruction in the defense of loved ones, his calling and even his country.

A man is mature. He needs no emotional or social validation from the world or his woman. His validation comes automatically from within as a result of genuine manhood.

A man is aware of and unapologetic for his true nature as a killer and an animal. He bears the burden of the defense of others and does not apologize for his desires as a man.

Other men are naturally inclined to follow his lead and learn from him, and he accepts this responsibility willingly and joyfully.

It is a BURDEN that a man accepts and shoulders willingly, until his death.
Thanks for sharing


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We could also say:

"Men are not in a crisis; wimps are."

And you can question that too, because it´s something your
own power allows you to.

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