One of my employees is this BEAUTIFUL Hispanic woman...29, Married, one child. I never interacted with her much prior to my ascension to the throne because of the remoteness of our assignments/workflow. Now that I'm practically her boss, we HAVE to interact occasionally. She seems like a faithful woman...and I know she's put up certain safeguards with me that most women do when trying to make sure they stay on the right path...like acting like she can't stand me when she barely knows me and avoiding eye contact yet getting caught sometimes if I glance around.
Turns out her hubby also works for my company in a more mechanical capacity....he's late 40's. I've seen him in passing but never put it together or really cared enough to. Anyway, he had to come to my section yesterday so we ended up talking for a bit. Sure as shit, first chance he had to bring it to my attention who his wife was, he did. In the name of science (!), I decided to plant a few seeds to see what would happen.
Him: Yeah so-and-so is my wife...you know her?
Me: *chuckles* yeah I'd kind of have to since I'm her boss.
Him: She's can be kinda feisty.
Me: Yeah...she is REEL feisty.
With that last comment, I could see him visibly stiffen up and assume a more defensive posture. I had my hunches why...and they were all confirmed the next day (yesterday). We finished the convo amicably...turns out she got him this job relatively recently...and from what I could glean, she is DEFINITELY the boss of him (unsurprisingly).
Yesterday, we had a meeting for all staff. One point of interest is that first she was sitting on the complete opposite of the room from me. Once the projector turned on, her seat didn't give her a very good view...so out of all the seats she could have chosen to provide a better view, she chooses the one right next to me. I tempt fate, notice her iphone and ask if she's getting the new one. She opens up like a blooming flower...I cut it in 3 minutes, get up and leave the room.
Afterwards, my employees that needed something from me shuffled into my office and they got what they needed. Once that all cleared out, guess who saunters up?
After some small talk (which is unusual for her normally), she gets into it:
Her: So I heard you met the hubbster. *rolls eyes*
Now we're getting to the meaning of my title. Prior to me meeting her hubby, she has always been tactically aloof. I know for a FACT this older guy is insecure about his life and that he considers her to be better than him. This means he went home that day and mentioned meeting me in a very insecure manner, I am sure of it...and it is because of his insecurity that she warmed up to me overnight...HIS INSECURITY IS PUSHING HER TOWARDS ME
. Piquing her interest, so to speak.
She then gave me the history...and when women volunteer details about their lives like this, it usually means they wouldn't mind waltzing with you...HORIZONTALLY.
They met when she was 19 and he was 37. From the color of the convo, she now realizes that if she could it all over again, she would have done it differently. She made it sound like she has two kids to take care of (him and their son). I mentioned once that she seems happy (NOT!)...to which she replied, "Well, at least I got my son out of the deal."...totally disenfranchised.
The convo ended soon thereafter and she left. I have no intentions play with THAT fire...but man...human behavior is just so fascinating when you can really read between the lines.
EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.