Long threads, like this one, seem to take a life of their own!
The "solution" of this thread for me was in the first page from eldora and flow. The rest felt like a distraction away from the solution.
|eldora wrote: *||Mon Apr 13, 2015 8:06 am|
It might work if it is for Real, otherwise you will bounce back again.
Try this : Whatever was your internal state (desires) in regards Woman you've projected it to the outside , just from now on do the opposite (reject), and see what happens with no expectations.
|Flow83 wrote: *||Fri Apr 17, 2015 1:51 pm|
This sounds more apathetic, like this game of having to be the exceptional guy is too stacked against you, so fuck it. Someone who has come to a place of acceptance and indifference about the subject, the healthy 'fuck it' (there's a book with that title by the way that sounds very good) is very unlikely to say anything like parts of the above, because it isn't a ragequit, a whole new perspective emerges. It is a very peaceful place to be, zero bitterness. It is the result of a journey and not a posture. The whole game is largely a projection. It's very much there and tons of people are playing it, which is why the matrix is a good analogy, that doesn't make it 'real.' The closer you get to reality the more at peace you become with yourself and the world - the more that radiates and women who are right for you (and some others who aren't) will pro-actively make continued efforts to be with you, while you do absolutely nothing. Nothing exceptional, no clever facebook tricks or any of that stupid bullshit. There are enough people who have experienced this - it isn't a trick. It's even weird sometimes. It's even annoying sometimes. It's not this thing you would brag and make a big deal about at all unless you were trying to sell some shitty products. It feels more like a part of nature because IT IS.
For a while I could not believe this was possible because it's so "logical" that "women have all this choice so you have to be amazing." The irony is that it's like trying to be unique and special, everyone is doing it. You only aren't doing that when you *actually* have begun to let go of that and a quality emerges that is extremely rare. Someone who is in a situation and not dripping with ulterior motive, bitterness, something to prove, insecurity, all of this gets picked up - an enormous percentage of our brain is designed to pick up the feelings of others, and yes it IS a ton of work and game playing to put up a front that projects that through behavior.
There's a huge ability to relax and feel safe around a person actually in this space, which as part of nature, is a huge deal to humans.. as well as increasingly rare. Many people have never felt a moment of feeling totally secure and not judged, even in their own families. Even more significant for females biologically speaking. It is craved. People who begin doing serious work on themselves (real introspection and not just techniques to get laid) notice how much they *themselves* are craving it and how that was behind so much behavior, including the desire to be the so-called best option. The less it is projected the more it is found. People will be drawn to it despite 'better options' all around them to the surprise of all including you for a while. Nature trumps all. Of course not being a technique, you don't get to choose who feels this. However when armed with some awareness, savvy and skill you are a deadly combination among those who choose you.
It's also interesting that this response was to eldora, kind of a perfect mirror to what he put forward.
I don't know what you're up to today Alchemist. The feeling I had while re-reading this thread was you didn't really want to find a solution to your problem. You wanted more to be heard and to vent. I created threads in the past and had my head to far up my ass to even see the solutions others were giving me!
This forum has A LOT more to offer me than I first thought it did. I was "playing games" with myself as an active member here - teasing myself with the idea of change.
Shit here is A LOT more REAL than most of the things I experience outside from here. I want truth, well here it is.