Thanks to everyone for getting in on this post. It began as a way to clear my head and get the facts down for my own later review and by the end of it I was ALREADY smiling (
Aragorn)and shaking my head at the whole affair. Anyway, she's not the only line I have in the water, she just started to take the bait first. Saturday evening, she texted me a few times but I was out of the city doing my own thing so it didn't matter. And today before class she accuses me of having the "worst sense of what's going on around you ever!" because I didn't acknowledge her with her head down in her phone as I passed thirty feet away to speak to another classmate. In my head I was laughing because oh if she only knew of my casual observations over the past 3+ weeks. She's now planting seeds about campus pubs and upcoming movies. So glad that I am more aware now and recognize when this is happening.
Pindar: I'm fairly certain now that I didn't do anything "wrong". I could have done some things differently in hindsight, like notice when she started guessing what size bed I had ("you probably still sleep in a single. Or whatever, maybe you've got a California King for yourself"
), but I do still get carried away by the speaker sometimes and pay attention to what has been SAID and not what is really BEING SAID. Hell yeah it's also on her! It is only her fault if she spent the drive home to her cold dark house all moist and squirming in her seat because she wouldn't do something as simple make a little physical contact with my arm stretched across the back of the sofa.
As for the cobra in my gut, I bet she could feel it, but she was still pretty open and wasn't crawling over the arm of the couch to escape, so maybe not. I think it was a time pressure thing where I knew it was getting late coupled with waiting for/certainly WANTING a definitive sign of her desire or intent. I could have been cooler. I'm happy with Yes or No, but the lack of concreteness has me rerunning interactions over in my head for clues.
Coconut: It's the only way I'll learn.
Jared: That's how I viewed the name situation for weeks and not only just with her. I decided that day that I may as well introduce myself after so long and she gave me her name as if I wasn't already aware from before. ( People really don't remember what they talk about for long do they?). It may have been sharing my name that set the whole rest of that day in motion.
Ho[/quote]So far I haven't inconvenienced myself for her sake, but I'll keep aware of this.
Altair: I did think of that very response when writing out the post but my reaction at her accusation cut off any chance my smart mouth had. More training required.
Aragorn: I've been fairly detached in observing and catching both the good and bad cues. I was enjoying our chats well enough and just noticing her behaviour as it happened, but as I write this, I'll admit that the possibility of sex inherent in the situation probably tipped my focus towards the more positive cues.
Slim Titan: Thanks, I hadn't considered the "off color"-ness of her comments. Definitely something to look at. We'd been talking smack to each other for most of the night, but her tone got weird right at the end.
Such valuable feedback. Be well and thanks again guys.