This is what happens when you don't find something that truly inspires you, something worth dedicating your time to.
Getting laid is a red herring in all of this.
We are not robots, the energy needs to go somewhere, and men need to work on something of value to them. You can't shut that off and yes, you will feel angst if you are doing nothing YOU find valuable, significant, enriching. If it is not channeled into that, the amount of which needed varies for different people, "well I may as well try to have sex with something" is the go to for men. This is because it's one of the few places they feel ANY sense of connection, excitement, the hunt/conquest, reward for efforts, validation etc. This is why it gets way out of control for a lot of guys and goes way beyond having a sex life they want, it becomes a substitute for these qualities.
There are many places you can get those effects that also contribute to your long term health, finances, skillset and so on.. which after a very basic level, putting it towards "success with women" does not. Of course putting it towards the former leads to better results for the latter anyway.
Video games is an even less productive substitute, at least in this instance you get out of the house and around humans.
It can be channeled into working on yourself inner-work style too, and finding that general sense of contentment outside of circumstances. That only has the desired effect however if it is actual intensive work on yourself, and real self discovery. Not reading forums and doing a little 'letting go' or self introspection whenever we're not getting laid as much as we want.
With the other systems in place you can play video games or go to clubs as you like, but they will be to chill out or enjoy yourself, not trying to fill a sense of self worth and self-expression that they never possibly could.
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