#1 there were reasons you two split up.. Has that changed?
Will those reasons still be there and resurface later?
#2 Is there a good reason to try again?
#3 What is your gut telling you?
#1 We split because I decided I wasn't ready to put my all into being with her. I felt like I was missing out on my young life trying to take care of her and my daughter. She did her part but I was too full of lust for women I saw daily. I was also torn because I didn't want to be a cheater. So I told her I need a break. Truthfully, I still feel the same way. I haven't been able to live the way I want to yet. While Her and I have been cordial for our daughter, We have lost the connection we use to share over time. I think I may have gotten over-excited that she wanted to connect again. If I was to jump back in it with her I would still wonder what I could be doing.
#2 It would be nice to give my daughter a healthy family setting to grow up in. It would also be nice to be with my wife with a more mature mindset.
#3 When I read this question the first thought I get is "I'm not ready yet."
#1 ARE? you? happy?
#1 I am a generally happy person but not as happy within as I know I can be.
The underlined and bolded parts made me angry. I had a feeling she wasn't treating you the same way.
I don't know why that first line and the ensuing parts angered me, but I'm guessing it has something to do with unresolved issues about the red pill, not being able to see another woman with another man or woman.
But something in there is a red flag man.
These things made me angry and real jealous at first but I realized soon after that I could be doing the same things. What bothered me was that she wanted me to treat her like a nun almost then she goes exploring on her own, and now it seems she wants to still be seen as a nun. I don't think I can be faithful to a girl who wont do things with me that she will do with others and even tell me about it. Thinking more clearly now. definitely a red flag.
I feel (or sense) that she is doing something to get back at him, but it could be all in my head. It just feels like this is a well constructed ploy to gain his favor because she mentioned something about him making her feel insecurity towards three ways. Note: divorce was on her mind.
By him do you mean me? If so I think you may be partially right. She says her feelings for me never went away and she was heartbroken so she went out looking for something like what we had. I think she put herself in that situation to make me jealous enough to immediately want to do something about it. she also said that when she was being a bitch, it was because she thought it would make me try harder to get her back. It only pushed me farther away.
I would also add as food for thought that if she was so unconcerned about adding a third party into your relationship then why did she hop in the sack with TWO different people?
That's why I always pushed the issue with her. When we first met, she told me she had been with girls. I figured she was already open to things like that but she insisted otherwise I guess so she could have her "happily ever after"
Last, from your response, Phaero, to what has been said in the thread, you sound like you are putting in A LOT OF WORK. Why? Either you or she decided on the break. I forget who, but that's important. If you decided on the break then you shouldn't be putting in near as much as you are right now IF ANY.
Sure she's calling you, but the psychological machinations in your second post tell me that you are leaking a lot of information about where you stand rather than listening to what she is telling you.
I just get the feeling that if you go back with her as things are right now things won't end peaceably.
P.S. What ever happened to girl that took you out to Olive Garden? She was DOING a lot for you.
I know I leaked a whole lot. I wont go into detail but I got pretty emotional talking to her a few times. She did say we don't have to be together to have a good relationship and raise our daughter. Ima just give her some space and continue worrying about myself. The other girl stopped calling because I was too staunch. I thought she was playing games trying to get me to pay for shit. she just seemed like she was being sneaky kinda like my wife. Funny the graduated the same high school. lol
@The Kidd
If that's how you feel, maybe I should pay more attention.
This situation almost reminds me of this thread:
viewtopic.php?f=7&t=2250
Lucky Its not so extreme but Ill never put anything past this woman again.