Fair enough Slim.

My best advice is what star already said.

Too many beautiful women in this world to stress too much over any one of them. I don't mean to just drop her all staunch and such.

Just reassess the situation as you see fit.

As for your response about focusing on the why you are still wrong, and I hope you have the humility to listen. When you focus on why you don't get to the mechanics of things. You get the theory of things. You can often times deduce cause and effect from logical why questions, but that takes you out of the present moment for one. Second, often times the logic of why is laden with emotion. Hence, it will be nearly impossible to find the why out without understanding the how and what of actions that preceded it. Further, the how and what often answers the why question. So, the why question becomes redundant.

Take a situation of a person that doesn't like ice cream but likes milk. Asking why will lead you down a series of stupid questions. If you ask that person how ice cream tastes versus how milk tastes you get to the root of their beliefs.

The question of why is often ego driven and asking why all the time is definitely egoistic. You're only caring about yourself or limiting to your needs because the why question only fulfills what you're thinking about. If someone is thinking trains rule and you ask why they might not be thinking about the train at all. They might be thinking about the tracks, the scenery, the buildings, the seats etc.

Honestly I think your ego is the one that needs checking my friend.

The reason I "checked" myself is because it really doesn't concern me and I don't care enough to go back and forth with you over this.

Again, it's your life, not mine. There's really not much I can discern from text on a computer screen. Not much I can analyze objectively, that is.

That opening line really just turned me off from reading the rest of the shit there.

I really hope you're only this confrontational with people on the internet, because if you're like this with everyone, then you're right, you need to work on your cloaking skills.

Maybe I'm not at the level where I can tell you exactly what your problem is, but I feel it in my gut you're struggling with something. Why else would you be resisting so much.

So go ahead, tell me I'm completely stupid and incompetent and throw whatever other backhanded remark you'd like. Just know that there is a source for all that frustration and it is not me.

EDIT: I read a couple paragraphs of what you wrote and I get the vibe you're trying to convince yourself of something rather than convincing me or anyone else.

There's a reason why I responded the way that I did to you.

Now why?

As for your response about focusing on the why you are still wrong, and I hope you have the humility to listen. When you focus on why you don't get to the mechanics of things. You get the theory of things. You can often times deduce cause and effect from logical why questions, but that takes you out of the present moment for one. Second, often times the logic of why is laden with emotion. Hence, it will be nearly impossible to find the why out without understanding the how and what of actions that preceded it. Further, the how and what often answers the why question. So, the why question becomes redundant.

Take a situation of a person that doesn't like ice cream but likes milk. Asking why will lead you down a series of stupid questions. If you ask that person how ice cream tastes versus how milk tastes you get to the root of their beliefs.

The question of why is often ego driven and asking why all the time is definitely egoistic. You're only caring about yourself or limiting to your needs because the why question only fulfills what you're thinking about. If someone is thinking trains rule and you ask why they might not be thinking about the train at all. They might be thinking about the tracks, the scenery, the buildings, the seats etc.

Have you ever thought that I don't take kindly to people placing their own problems onto me?

That what was got me a bit worked up to be honest. I knew that you didn't truly believe in what you were saying about how "asking why is pointless".



It is often pointless, and I haven't moved from that position. You are distorting my position to mean "NEVER" instead of "INFREQUENTLY". How do you do that?

did you understand what I wrote? I'm extremely serious.


Further, you have once again said I did something that I didn't do. How are you able to do that?

Honestly, I believe making this statement Is completely irrational, especially when we are having an argument/discussion. I've seen you say this a lot to people on this forum when they disagree with your opinion.

No it is not irrational it is EXTREMELY LOGICAL. If you fabricate some belief about what I'm thinking or doing then it is FAKE. THAT IS CALLED A STRAWMAN ARGUMENT.

It sounds like how a woman would argue. Instead of addressing what has actually been said, they focus their part of the argument on painting the opposition as a bad person with some irrational statement.

It's called playing the victim.

Please refer back to your earlier statement about irrationality. Then please refer to the statement about how a woman would argue. Then please refer to the underlined statement. Then please explain how you are not doing exactly what you accuse me of doing.

I'll stop this now because it is petty and pointless.

This was far from pointless. It is far from petty. If you choose a different direction with your mind.