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Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
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Author:  caliboy85 [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 3:05 am ]
Post subject:  Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
I messages this chick online earlier today saying hey sexy and after a few exchange of msgs..i drop her my number and tell her to text me sometime...SHE texts me a few hours later
Her:hey David.its Amanda
Me:hey
Her:from Cupid..sorry
Me:Lol..I know who you are
Her:hahaha just sayin lol

I left it at that.The old me would try to keep the conversation going/asking interview questions.Im really trying to limit the amount of space im taking.If she's not gonna make the effort to show interest or ask me questions then im not gonna make the effort to keep the convo going.Is this the right attitude?
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 3:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
It's a start...baby steps. 8-)
Author:  Meraki [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 4:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
You could do worse...

Might be helpful to ask yourself what your intention is with messaging her in the first place. What do you want out of this, and why do you want it?
Author:  caliboy85 [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 8:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
Meraki wrote:
You could do worse...

Might be helpful to ask yourself what your intention is with messaging her in the first place. What do you want out of this, and why do you want it?

I thought she was sexy(no makeup) and was interested to see where things may lead.Wouldn't mind having Fwb if things go well and she invests.Is this a bad intention?
Author:  peregrinus [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 9:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
caliboy85 wrote:
was interested to see where things may lead.
caliboy85 wrote:
Wouldn't mind having Fwb
caliboy85 wrote:
if things go well and if she invests
Read those slowly, separately, at least a few times.

Then think about what you would say to me if I had posted them.

NOTE: NO-ONE ELSE, only caliboy85
Author:  caliboy85 [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 9:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
peregrinus wrote:
caliboy85 wrote:
was interested to see where things may lead.
caliboy85 wrote:
Wouldn't mind having Fwb
caliboy85 wrote:
if things go well and if she invests
Read those slowly, separately, at least a few times.

Then think about what you would say to me if I had posted them.

NOTE: NO-ONE ELSE, only caliboy85

If you had posted it I would say that you were trying to get into her pants.
Author:  peregrinus [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 9:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
caliboy85 wrote:
If you had posted it I would say that you were trying to get into her pants.
[INANE BUZZER SOUND] Incorrect, way too easy.

Attempt #2 coming up...
Author:  caliboy85 [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 10:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
peregrinus wrote:
caliboy85 wrote:
If you had posted it I would say that you were trying to get into her pants.
[INANE BUZZER SOUND] Incorrect, way too easy.

Attempt #2 coming up...
Wait a sec are you saying I was too worried whether or not things went the way I wanted them to go?(dream scenario of have Fwb with a hot chick)
Author:  Flow83 [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 10:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
caliboy85 wrote:
peregrinus wrote:
caliboy85 wrote:
If you had posted it I would say that you were trying to get into her pants.
[INANE BUZZER SOUND] Incorrect, way too easy.

Attempt #2 coming up...
Grinus I read it over and over and can't think of anything I did wrong.I often hear ppl here saying things like her being good looking isn't enough and she has to bring something to the table,so i was trying to adopt a similar mindset.I thought the lesson was to let them fill in the space that you create.
He made three quotes for you to read.

None of them had anything to do with you "doing" anything.
Author:  peregrinus [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 10:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
caliboy85 wrote:
Wait a sec are you saying I was too worried whether or not things went the way I wanted them to go?(dream scenario of have Fwb with a hot chick)
[INANE BUZZER SOUND] Incorrect, way too easy.

Attempt #4 coming up...
Author:  caliboy85 [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 11:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
peregrinus wrote:
caliboy85 wrote:
was interested to see where things may lead.
caliboy85 wrote:
Wouldn't mind having Fwb
caliboy85 wrote:
if things go well and if she invests
Read those slowly, separately, at least a few times.

Then think about what you would say to me if I had posted them.

NOTE: NO-ONE ELSE, only caliboy85
You mean good job..now just let it go and see where it goes?
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 11:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
Watch it, 'Grinus...he can do this all day! ;)
Author:  caliboy85 [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 11:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
I'm confused
Author:  peregrinus [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 11:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
caliboy85 wrote:
I'm confused
I can see that.

A slight hint, you have not guessed correctly yet.
Author:  caliboy85 [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 11:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
peregrinus wrote:
caliboy85 wrote:
I'm confused
I can see that.

A slight hint, you have not guessed correctly yet.
Focused too much on her?

Idk man I'm trying too see what you want men to see.. its not from a lack of effort
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 12:42 am ]
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Quote:
Idk man I'm trying too see what I NEED to see.. its not from a lack of effort
Fix'd :ugeek:
Author:  caliboy85 [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 1:07 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
peregrinus wrote:
caliboy85 wrote:
was interested to see where things may lead.
caliboy85 wrote:
Wouldn't mind having Fwb
caliboy85 wrote:
if things go well and if she invests
Read those slowly, separately, at least a few times.

Then think about what you would say to me if I had posted them.

NOTE: NO-ONE ELSE, only caliboy85
I'm gonna answer this honestly Grinus.If you wrote that post I would say you are a normal guy with desires.I don't see anything wrong with it from my perspective.Theres nothing wrong with desiring friends with benefits or seeing where things go as long as you are aware of these desires and not attached to them.That's all i would say to you.
Author:  Meraki [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 1:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
Caliboy - You may think or feel like Kidd and Grinus are holding out on the answer just to mess with you a bit. They're not.

You have a blindspot, a part of yourself you choose not to look at/acknowledge.

You don't get rid of a blindspot by getting someone else to look there and tell you what they see.

You get rid of a blindspot by turning your head and looking.

This is part of what we call doing pushups. Grinus is trying to get you to look at your blindspot.

Once you look at your blindspot, you can question why you were unwilling to look there, and you can question why what you found when you looked is there. Seeing everything as it is, learning the truth of the yourself and the world is not always pleasant or easy, but its definitely worthwhile.
Author:  caliboy85 [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 1:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
peregrinus wrote:
caliboy85 wrote:
was interested to see where things may lead.
caliboy85 wrote:
Wouldn't mind having Fwb
caliboy85 wrote:
if things go well and if she invests
Read those slowly, separately, at least a few times.

Then think about what you would say to me if I had posted them.

NOTE: NO-ONE ELSE, only caliboy85
After painfully struggling through this answer I have come up with something.

Forget the idea of you posting it for a minute and just imagine I was a 3rd person looking in.

If I was on the outside looking in I would tell myself what the fuck are you doing caring about where this interaction goes!!!!...who gives a fine fuck whether or not she invests in the interaction or not you fucking idiot!!Stop basing your sucess on wheter or not a woman responds to you because no single woman is responsible for your happiness.
Author:  peregrinus [ Wed Jun 19, 2013 5:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this the right ball stealing mindset?
oh my

--

On another note,
Meraki :D
Flow :D
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