Then wait to start driving. In the meantime, initiate space protocol.
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| Author: | caliboy85 [ Fri May 31, 2013 5:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Did I handle this right? |
So last week I got a MSG from this chick on an online dating site.She initiates telling me I'm cute and after a few back and forth msgs I give her my number and the option of texted me if she wants.Immediately she asks me my dick size..lol and I tell her.She sends me some nude photos and we start sexually texting.Over the last few days(until yesterday) she iniates texts asking me how I'm doing.(it actually got annoying at one point).Anyways fast forward to a couple of days ago We have some conversation about how black dudes like thick white chicks. Her:Are you one of them Me: Yes ma'am Her: SO does that mean you will make me your girl Me:To be honest with you I'm not looking for a relationship right now but we can still be cool(taken from Kidd) Her:Oh well at least I tried Me: Just keeping it real Her: I didn't want to scare you. Her: I know it's early probably shouldn't have asked She texts me the next day Her:Good afternoon Me:Hey Her:How are you today Me:doing fine sexy how about you? Her: that's good and I'm doin just fine Me: You working today Her: No I'm off Me:When I get my license your taking me out Her: Oh really Me: yes Her:ok 20 mins later Her: what up sexy Me: headed to the gym.you? Her:Oh so you do work out do you Not shit.Just chillin Me:watching porn?(she likes watching black on white) Her:no my iPod is dead Me:tell her to send me photos Her:so how's the workout going Me: Im not there yet Me: do you ever go out with friends Her:No Me: How come? Her: I have no car and I hangout with 1 friend. Me: So have you ever gone out to the club or bars? Her: No Me:Oh ok Her: Yeah We haven't texted each other the last couple days.Shes probably shocked from having to deal with the fact that she can't have a relationship under her terms.And besides who in the right mind would ask to be your gf over text msg when they havent met you yet.She added me on facebook and saw her photos so this isnt a fake person.Obviously,this isn't the kind of woman I would want to be in a long term relationship but I wouldn't mind a friends with benefits type of deal if shes good looking enough in real life So far have I handled this well |
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| Author: | JDogg [ Fri May 31, 2013 9:36 am ] |
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I'd say you've shot the shit enough at this point. Next time she hits you up either: a) keep it short and get off the phone because you're busy b) arrange to meet because you're not busy and you wouldn't mind sticking her. To your credit, it seems like you've tried to keep it short...kind of hard when a girl says "what up" 20 minutes after the end of the last convo lol. She clearly wants it |
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| Author: | ahk [ Fri May 31, 2013 9:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? |
At the dick size question, she was trying to setup the FWB. You botched it. Should have replied 'come over and check it out'. She then baited you with sexts, still hoping you'd ask her to come over. You didn't grab the bait even then. She then really dialed it down for you, checking out how much of a newbie you were with the relationship question. She's probably lost all interest at this point. She was not shocked over anything. You were the one shocked. |
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| Author: | Alchemist [ Fri May 31, 2013 9:56 am ] |
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What's with the last bit of your convo dude? her short answers are telling. |
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| Author: | caliboy85 [ Fri May 31, 2013 12:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? |
She couldn't come over because she doesn't have a car.She even said she wish she had a car.I have a logistical problem because I live with my parents so her coming back here is out of the question.I just moved out here to Atlanta and I don't have my drivers license so I have to wait until next week to start driving. |
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| Author: | rekieter [ Fri May 31, 2013 12:25 pm ] |
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I agree with Alchemist, got same feeling while reading what she wrote in the end. If I were You I would go for the second option for the time being. |
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| Author: | ahk [ Fri May 31, 2013 1:31 pm ] |
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Atlanta has no buses or taxi service? She is forever stuck within walking distance of her place and needs to be rescued from this terrible circumstance? Are you planning to volunteer to chauffeur her around town? |
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| Author: | The Kidd!! [ Fri May 31, 2013 1:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? |
Then wait to start driving. In the meantime, initiate space protocol.
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| Author: | peregrinus [ Fri May 31, 2013 2:54 pm ] | |
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I have to wait until next week to start driving. Such a long long time.Not sure how you will last that long. |
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| Author: | The Pokemon Trainer [ Fri May 31, 2013 4:44 pm ] | |
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? | |
At the dick size question, she was trying to setup the FWB. You botched it. Should have replied 'come over and check it out'. She then baited you with sexts, still hoping you'd ask her to come over. You didn't grab the bait even then. She then really dialed it down for you, checking out how much of a newbie you were with the relationship question. She's probably lost all interest at this point.
I agree with this(Nice to meet you, ahk).She was not shocked over anything. You were the one shocked. In response to the dick question you should have invited her over: "Why don't you come over and find out for yourself. Don't forget to bring your yardstick". This girl made it as easy to hit it as society and her ego would allow her to. In short, no, you did not handle this right (assuming your goal was to get into some vagina). |
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| Author: | Meraki [ Fri May 31, 2013 5:02 pm ] | |
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I have a logistical problem because I live with my parents so her coming back here is out of the question.I just moved out here to Atlanta and I don't have my drivers license so I have to wait until next week to start driving.
Doesn't matter whether you handled some message stream with the chick right or not, your handling this ^^ wrong. Get yourself sorted out. You don't have to move out of your parents place and into a penthouse suite and buy a porsche. Just find a room to rent and go live with people closer to your own age.http://atlanta.craigslist.org/roo/ |
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| Author: | Slim Titan [ Fri May 31, 2013 7:42 pm ] | ||
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? | ||
So last week I got a MSG from this chick on an online dating site.She initiates telling me I'm cute and after a few back and forth msgs I give her my number and the option of texted me if she wants.Immediately she asks me my dick size..lol and I tell her.She sends me some nude photos and we start sexually texting.Over the last few days(until yesterday) she iniates texts asking me how I'm doing.(it actually got annoying at one point).Anyways fast forward to a couple of days ago
Going off on a limb.We have some conversation about how black dudes like thick white chicks. Her:Are you one of them Me: Yes ma'am Her: SO does that mean you will make me your girl Me:To be honest with you I'm not looking for a relationship right now but we can still be cool(taken from Kidd) Her:Oh well at least I tried Me: Just keeping it real Her: I didn't want to scare you. Her: I know it's early probably shouldn't have asked She texts me the next day Her:Good afternoon Me:Hey Her:How are you today Me:doing fine sexy how about you? Her: that's good and I'm doin just fine Me: You working today Her: No I'm off Me:When I get my license your taking me out Her: Oh really Me: yes Her:ok 20 mins later Her: what up sexy Me: headed to the gym.you? Her:Oh so you do work out do you Not shit.Just chillin Me:watching porn?(she likes watching black on white) Her:no my iPod is dead Me:tell her to send me photos Her:so how's the workout going Me: Im not there yet Me: do you ever go out with friends Her:No Me: How come? Her: I have no car and I hangout with 1 friend. Me: So have you ever gone out to the club or bars? Her: No Me:Oh ok Her: Yeah We haven't texted each other the last couple days.Shes probably shocked from having to deal with the fact that she can't have a relationship under her terms.And besides who in the right mind would ask to be your gf over text msg when they havent met you yet.She added me on facebook and saw her photos so this isnt a fake person.Obviously,this isn't the kind of woman I would want to be in a long term relationship but I wouldn't mind a friends with benefits type of deal if shes good looking enough in real life So far have I handled this well No disrespect to the other comments in the thread but telling her to come over and check out your dick after she asks how big it is is STUPID. That's a bait trap to see you're like every other guy on the internet that talks about his dick to a female. Seriously, you should always defuse overt sexual come-ons with internet females. If the overt bait is something like "can I invade your space" and then she hops on top of you then it's cool. If there is no physical counterpart and you do not have power to decide then it is not in your best interest to pursue that avenue with a woman. This holds true even if you can get the pussy by taking the bait. If a nigga ain't tryin' to murk you then a bitch tryin' to burn you. Think about how many other guys she's asked that question to because you definitely aren't the first homeboy. She could have a disease.
Me:When I get my license your taking me out
Seriously, You didn't Mash on her at this point?Her: Oh really Me: yes Her:ok This is the point where you lay down all that contract shit that's floating around in your skull. IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS SHE SAID THAT SHE WOULD OBEY YOU. IT'S YOUR JOB TO MAKE OR BREAK HER AT THIS POINT. SHE EITHER DOWN OR NOT DOWN. You gave up the power like you were about to be assassinated. This shit isn't over contrary to the other comments in the thread. You're on life support with this woman. Don't initiate any contact with her. When she contacts you and asks "What are you doing?" answer "Tired of texting you because you're bullshitting." Stack and present evidence and save this before it's a total train wreck. |
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| Author: | ahk [ Fri May 31, 2013 8:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? |
A bait is a bait is a bait. Theories like 'show the girl you are different from other guys' and thus not striking when the iron is hot, are ignoring female biology. Women are horny when they ovulate. Miss that window and they condemn you as not a man (false obviously, but does not change the situation). I know one instance where the girl chatted with a guy online briefly, travelled over 2 hours by bus to his city, and started fucking the guy in front of his roommate, not even giving the roommate time to get out of the place. I know that I've missed atleast one good lay playing the gentleman in the past, my friends as well. We never turned the situation around with those girls. It was all stupid gamesmanship on our parts. |
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| Author: | aTrueRebel [ Fri May 31, 2013 9:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? |
The only piece of advice I have is to leave it alone. Plain and simple. You'll find yourself so invested in these girls that, you ignore the girls who are jocking you in the REAL world. |
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| Author: | caliboy85 [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 12:41 am ] | |||
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So last week I got a MSG from this chick on an online dating site.She initiates telling me I'm cute and after a few back and forth msgs I give her my number and the option of texted me if she wants.Immediately she asks me my dick size..lol and I tell her.She sends me some nude photos and we start sexually texting.Over the last few days(until yesterday) she iniates texts asking me how I'm doing.(it actually got annoying at one point).Anyways fast forward to a couple of days ago
Going off on a limb.We have some conversation about how black dudes like thick white chicks. Her:Are you one of them Me: Yes ma'am Her: SO does that mean you will make me your girl Me:To be honest with you I'm not looking for a relationship right now but we can still be cool(taken from Kidd) Her:Oh well at least I tried Me: Just keeping it real Her: I didn't want to scare you. Her: I know it's early probably shouldn't have asked This is a condensed version of what happened.There is stuff here that I didn't include in here 20 mins later Her:How's your day going Me:Fine Her:What ar you up to Me:Going bowling Her:oh that sounds like fun do you mind if I join you? Her:she says something that doesn't make sense Me: what do you mean? Her: I mean since you don't want a girlfriend I can come as as a friend. I like bowling. Me:that would be cool..we can go bowling sometime(also implying not today) She texts me the next day Her:Good afternoon Me:Hey Her:How are you today Me:doing fine sexy how about you? Her: that's good and I'm doin just fine Me: You working today Her: No I'm off Me:When I get my license your taking me out Her: Oh really Me: yes Her:ok 20 mins later Her: what up sexy Me: headed to the gym.you? Her:Oh so you do work out do you Not shit.Just chillin Me:watching porn?(she likes watching black on white) Her:no my iPod is dead Me:tell her to send me photos Her:so how's the workout going Me: Im not there yet Me: do you ever go out with friends Her:No Me: How come? Her: I have no car and I hangout with 1 friend. Me: So have you ever gone out to the club or bars? Her: No Me:Oh ok Her: Yeah We haven't texted each other the last couple days.Shes probably shocked from having to deal with the fact that she can't have a relationship under her terms.And besides who in the right mind would ask to be your gf over text msg when they havent met you yet.She added me on facebook and saw her photos so this isnt a fake person.Obviously,this isn't the kind of woman I would want to be in a long term relationship but I wouldn't mind a friends with benefits type of deal if shes good looking enough in real life So far have I handled this well No disrespect to the other comments in the thread but telling her to come over and check out your dick after she asks how big it is is STUPID. That's a bait trap to see you're like every other guy on the internet that talks about his dick to a female. Seriously, you should always defuse overt sexual come-ons with internet females. If the overt bait is something like "can I invade your space" and then she hops on top of you then it's cool. If there is no physical counterpart and you do not have power to decide then it is not in your best interest to pursue that avenue with a woman. This holds true even if you can get the pussy by taking the bait. If a nigga ain't tryin' to murk you then a bitch tryin' to burn you. Think about how many other guys she's asked that question to because you definitely aren't the first homeboy. She could have a disease.
Me:When I get my license your taking me out
Seriously, You didn't Mash on her at this point?Her: Oh really Me: yes Her:ok This is the point where you lay down all that contract shit that's floating around in your skull. IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS SHE SAID THAT SHE WOULD OBEY YOU. IT'S YOUR JOB TO MAKE OR BREAK HER AT THIS POINT. SHE EITHER DOWN OR NOT DOWN. You gave up the power like you were about to be assassinated. This shit isn't over contrary to the other comments in the thread. You're on life support with this woman. Don't initiate any contact with her. When she contacts you and asks "What are you doing?" answer "Tired of texting you because you're bullshitting." Stack and present evidence and save this before it's a total train wreck. |
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| Author: | caliboy85 [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 12:49 am ] | ||||
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So last week I got a MSG from this chick on an online dating site.She initiates telling me I'm cute and after a few back and forth msgs I give her my number and the option of texted me if she wants.Immediately she asks me my dick size..lol and I tell her.She sends me some nude photos and we start sexually texting.Over the last few days(until yesterday) she iniates texts asking me how I'm doing.(it actually got annoying at one point).Anyways fast forward to a couple of days ago
Going off on a limb.We have some conversation about how black dudes like thick white chicks. Her:Are you one of them Me: Yes ma'am Her: SO does that mean you will make me your girl Me:To be honest with you I'm not looking for a relationship right now but we can still be cool(taken from Kidd) Her:Oh well at least I tried Me: Just keeping it real Her: I didn't want to scare you. Her: I know it's early probably shouldn't have asked This is a condensed version of what happened.There is stuff here that I didn't include in here 20 mins later Her:How's your day going Me:Fine Her:What ar you up to Me:Going bowling Her:oh that sounds like fun do you mind if I join you? Her:she says something that doesn't make sense Me: what do you mean? Her: I mean since you don't want a girlfriend I can come as as a friend. I like bowling. Me:that would be cool..we can go bowling sometime(also implying not today) She texts me the next day Her:Good afternoon Me:Hey Her:How are you today Me:doing fine sexy how about you? Her: that's good and I'm doin just fine Me: You working today Her: No I'm off Me:When I get my license your taking me out Her: Oh really Me: yes Her:ok 20 mins later Her: what up sexy Me: headed to the gym.you? Her:Oh so you do work out do you Not shit.Just chillin Me:watching porn?(she likes watching black on white) Her:no my iPod is dead Me:tell her to send me photos Her:so how's the workout going Me: Im not there yet Me: do you ever go out with friends Her:No Me: How come? Her: I have no car and I hangout with 1 friend. Me: So have you ever gone out to the club or bars? Her: No Me:Oh ok Her: Yeah We haven't texted each other the last couple days.Shes probably shocked from having to deal with the fact that she can't have a relationship under her terms.And besides who in the right mind would ask to be your gf over text msg when they havent met you yet.She added me on facebook and saw her photos so this isnt a fake person.Obviously,this isn't the kind of woman I would want to be in a long term relationship but I wouldn't mind a friends with benefits type of deal if shes good looking enough in real life So far have I handled this well No disrespect to the other comments in the thread but telling her to come over and check out your dick after she asks how big it is is STUPID. That's a bait trap to see you're like every other guy on the internet that talks about his dick to a female. Seriously, you should always defuse overt sexual come-ons with internet females. If the overt bait is something like "can I invade your space" and then she hops on top of you then it's cool. If there is no physical counterpart and you do not have power to decide then it is not in your best interest to pursue that avenue with a woman. This holds true even if you can get the pussy by taking the bait. If a nigga ain't tryin' to murk you then a bitch tryin' to burn you. Think about how many other guys she's asked that question to because you definitely aren't the first homeboy. She could have a disease.
Me:When I get my license your taking me out
Seriously, You didn't Mash on her at this point?Her: Oh really Me: yes Her:ok This is the point where you lay down all that contract shit that's floating around in your skull. IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS SHE SAID THAT SHE WOULD OBEY YOU. IT'S YOUR JOB TO MAKE OR BREAK HER AT THIS POINT. SHE EITHER DOWN OR NOT DOWN. You gave up the power like you were about to be assassinated. This shit isn't over contrary to the other comments in the thread. You're on life support with this woman. Don't initiate any contact with her. When she contacts you and asks "What are you doing?" answer "Tired of texting you because you're bullshitting." Stack and present evidence and save this before it's a total train wreck. |
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| Author: | The Kidd!! [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 1:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? |
^You aren't anywhere NEAR that point yet. 
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| Author: | peregrinus [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 9:52 am ] | |
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^You aren't anywhere NEAR that point yet. Agreed
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| Author: | Slim Titan [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 2:26 pm ] | ||
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^You aren't anywhere NEAR that point yet.
I didn't have the heart to tell him that, but when the conversation takes the turn it took. I think it needs to be pointed out.
A bait is a bait is a bait.
You are projecting. There is nothing about showing the girl you're different from every other guy. It's actually BEING different from every other guy.Theories like 'show the girl you are different from other guys' and thus not striking when the iron is hot, are ignoring female biology. Women are horny when they ovulate. Miss that window and they condemn you as not a man (false obviously, but does not change the situation). I know one instance where the girl chatted with a guy online briefly, travelled over 2 hours by bus to his city, and started fucking the guy in front of his roommate, not even giving the roommate time to get out of the place. I know that I've missed atleast one good lay playing the gentleman in the past, my friends as well. We never turned the situation around with those girls. It was all stupid gamesmanship on our parts. What I'm telling him to do is far from playing the gentleman. I'm telling him to control when and how he accepts what's offered to him. There is a difference in bait. It's about motivations. Frequently, those internet messages are driven by ego. That's why it's better to defuse that sexual comeon for internal and external reasons. Side note: Last few times I had a quick lay from the internet the female just gave me number, told me I'm sexy and asked for my number, etc. There was no HUGE overt sexual display. They got sexual at the appropriate time. On the phone or in front of me. So, I'm not quick to buy into a what size are you = sex immediately. I am not saying that it could not lead to sex. I'm saying that ego can be a huge factor and if you don't defuse it then the situation can fizzle out. On another note, what's better than repressing a woman's extreme sexual desire? This question is for the The Kidd!! and Grinus |
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| Author: | ahk [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 3:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did I handle this right? |
'Defusing' or 'repressing' women's sexual desire sounds plain retarded to me, as a man. You may be in danger of projecting your own ego issues on to these women. |
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