I tried to respond to everyone and accidentally deleted the essay i wrote, so Ill do it in pieces.
I think you gave a bit away with this line. Kind of screams insecurity and passive-aggression. Not saying you're an insecure person but she may have sensed some doubt or emotional baggage on your part about your job or financial state.
That being said, I think there is much more to the fact that she was calling you a baller. I think she digged your state namely your contentedness and control over the environment in which she met you.
In essence, I think she was commenting on a lot more than just your financial state when she was calling you a baller. When you exposed in your response that you were only looking at the 'baller' comment as a comment on your finances, she may have seen this has a sign of weakness; she noticed your self-consciousness.
Furthermore, "Maybe you could help me with that" is a rather weak statement don't you think. If you're going to acknowledge an aspect of your life as a problem or as something that needs improvement, why not be proactive about it? Why should she 'maybe' help you with it.
She apologized and said we can talk later. I said it's cool, we can talk if you want. so we ended up talking for a minute til she started ranting about her friends.
You are slowly giving away your power and the mystery aura and making yourself too available when you did this.
I see. It felt natural in the moment because I wasnt busy but I could have used the situation to hype up anticipation.
I found out alot of how she feels like her friends walk over her
She chose you so now she' comfortable
I didnt feel like she chose yet because our conversation didnt go any deeper than that. That is just my assesment of what she said. Are you saying a female will choose even before the connection is solid?
She also kept insisting that i hurry up and enter her contest "cause I draw dope."
If that is the case tell that bitch to eddy up
, Shit ain't free know your worth home boy see how far she is willing to go for you to enter this contest. She is obviously going to use you so why not do the same and I'm not talking about getting some tail that is a reward more for her than it is for you. I'm talking something along the lines of her cooking, coughing some monies for your time and talent, clothes, leverage that shit.
Trust me I have every intention to take my time and see how much she wants me, but in the moment, sometimes its easy to forget about that.
If your truly indifferent you don't give a fuck where the interaction goes because you aren't invested she is.
The next day, i felt like i should call her so i did.
No, no, no you're filling space and now this puts you in chase a ho mode you basically gave up ball control.
I knew I would hear this one. I knew I shouldnt have called her. After the first conversation I left her wanting more. I think she noticed this because the next day she called me but got off the phone real quick. I somehow convinced myself that it was my turn to reciprocate. In the back of my mind I thought "She probably think Im not interested"
I told her dont be afraid to call me when she wants to. she said " I like that!"
Seems like this broad "likes that" everytime I slip up.
You basically handed over balls to her at this point women don't like men that are too available makes them look needy and that she can manipulate you you went from indifferent to invested. Don't worry I did this a lot as well I picked up on it and learned to just let things happen and let go of control.
I said "Calm down. my minutes aint free!" She laughed.
I liked this you managed to take back some control
she said " youre a baller, Why dont you get a camera phone?" I said "I wish i was a baller but im not
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Ehh You totally lost it at this point charge this one to the game she was the one chasing you and doing the work all you had to do (in Star Aboves words) is be awesome, do you, and leverage her wants to what you want, if she is going to use you might as well use her ya digg. I agree with Jdogg you must remain strong and confident you sounded weak and helpless when you said this and that porbably was the attraction killer right there. All I can say now is give her lots of space whether she comes back around or not you shouldn't care and if you do you should push ups to figure out why, then let it go.
In my situation its hard to think of how to use her. Especially without knowing much about her potential.
I forgot to mention that in one of the early phone convos she got excited and said "You have wonderful amazing day." I said "You do it too." (meaning to say you do the same.) She said " OOOH yeah ima do it yeah!" all sexually.
She was down son! most likely she wanted you to take charge on how to set the situation and circumstances up to where both parties would be happy.
Another conversation she said something like "Were you thinking about me? when you did such and such?" and I said no but I thought about you while i was working on your picture. She said " oooh I really like that!!" last night while on the phone She askes me if i would do free touch ups on tattoos if needed. I said " yea Ill touch you up for free!" she said "wow" but i played it off and changed the subject anyway. I slapped myself for that one immediately. Im trying not to worry about it but i cant help but think that messed up the flow of things, even though she was saying shit like that first.
Definitely charge it you basically just devalued your self worth and time and like a typical female she was seeing how far you would go for her. (ie. manipulate you into how much she can suck from you like a true parasite does and how much of a hold her pussy power has on you.)
When I read what I said to her and think about it, I can see how I was coming from the wrong place.
I was wondering what you guys think about how this whole thing played out. im still working on observing more than just the obvious. I feel I should fall back now and see what she does at this point.
I already told you my thoughts above. I agree you do need to observe more but more on yourself than on others, I totally agree on this last one like Grinus says
Space!!