not love, neediness.
not giving, taking.
I didn't understand what you meant at first, but now I get it. What I portray as "giving love" to others is actually neediness. Taking, I'm taking away something from them to better my feeling. Opposite of coming from a whole/complete foundation.
Something that I found that helps me to put 'give and take' into perspective, is the following imagery:
You're facing someone else. Imagine yourself giving something with the right hand, trying to put something into the other person's left hand. Simultaneously, YOUR left is taking something out of their right (even if they want you to have it). That's FORCE. Nope.
Instead:
Your right is in front of you, palm up, offering whatever is within it, for them to take IF THEY WANT IT. Your left is in front of you, palm up & empty, for them to place what they want into it. (If you don't want what they're offering, fine - just close the palm.)
But what about cases when someone WANTS you to take something? Eg a woman wants you to lean in & kiss her, or wants you to take her HARD? I would argue that at that point she has already put what she wants to offer (lips, body) in your hand. Gut is required.
Not saying I am even close to proficient at this myself yet - just throwing it out there in case it's useful.
[Edit: isn't it interesting how, at least in the West, the term 'give & take' is not conspicuous? Should it not be 'offer & accept'? ]