This just reminded me of a previous experience I had about a year ago that I was unsure about...
A classmate of mine took a liking to me and every class we would chat a bit.
Somestimes we would flirt hard.
After some time she 'opened' up to me and said things like "I like you" (TEST).
Unexperinced, I thought I had won her over...I did what I wanted to do and not what I NEEDED to do. I became sappy and shared my needy feelings.
I gave her "what she wanted".
After that...she was gone (emotionally). It was like a flip switched off in her.
Reading this thread again solved that mystery for me...
finish how you start.
Her becoming more dirct and showing more interest was a TEST to see how I would react to her being more direct.
I changed and she saw what she needed to see.
I was NOT what I had presented myself to be.
She could NOT trust me and be herself completely with me.
I NEEDED her.
I was NOT a REAL MAN.
If I WAS what I presnted myself to be though...ohh boy!! she would have probably been puddy in my hands and I would have been on her mind a lot more!
I also believe if I was strong in myself and sharing my feelings would have invested her even more to me, being I did it from a place of not needing her, but being honest with her as well.
It was nice to have it 'click' for me by reading this.
It really is that easy!