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Author:  aTrueRebel [ Thu Aug 30, 2012 8:43 pm ]
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So I've been talking to this girl for about 3 months now. At first, I was polite, well-mannered and acted like I cared. That got me nowhere.. She brushed me off and shit. So I said fuck it, and stopped giving a shit. I wasn't mad, I just became 'indifferent' and gave some 'space'.. Not really aware I was doing so. Oh boy, when I did that you would of swore some fucking magic happened. She started steadily texting me, coming to see me, etc.. I still remained indifferent and unattached.

So, yesterday I receive a text from her along the lines of "I can't handle it anymore.. ur distant and ur cold.. i can't stop crying all i want is to be close with you.. and i think i'm falling in love with you." :shock:

That came as a complete shock.. I haven't been doing or saying anything out of the ordinary. I gave her enough rope to hold on to and planted a few seeds in her mind here and there.. But for the most part, I treated her like a distant friend most of the time.

Is it really that damn easy? :?
Author:  StephenP [ Thu Aug 30, 2012 8:50 pm ]
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Quote:
Is it really that damn easy?
Yep

(A lesson I learned the hard way tho, finish how you start)
Author:  Rolan [ Thu Aug 30, 2012 9:12 pm ]
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StephenP wrote:
Quote:
Is it really that damn easy?
Yep

(A lesson I learned the hard way tho, finish how you start)
...I wouldn't even start with this one though. Tryin' times ahead :roll:
Author:  fufe [ Thu Aug 30, 2012 9:16 pm ]
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Thing is finish how you start.. Don't think about being nice and care like you did before, or she's GONE.
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Thu Aug 30, 2012 9:18 pm ]
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Give enough space and they will fill it. I blew my mind when I first discoved how I could do so much by doing nothing at all. Gotta luv it. 8-)
Author:  peregrinus [ Thu Aug 30, 2012 9:59 pm ]
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aTrueRebel wrote:
Is it really that damn easy? :?
Simplicity before understanding is simplistic; simplicity after understanding is simple.
The Kidd!! wrote:
Give enough space and they will fill it. I blew my mind when I first discoved how I could do so much by doing nothing at all. Gotta luv it. 8-)
Very much so..
Author:  Star_Above [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 12:49 am ]
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Like StephenP said, finish how you start! She's already testing you and in the beginning stages of submitting to you, if you give an inch and give her what she "wants" she's gone. Good job btw
Author:  TheDude [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 2:57 pm ]
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This just reminded me of a previous experience I had about a year ago that I was unsure about...

A classmate of mine took a liking to me and every class we would chat a bit.

Somestimes we would flirt hard.

After some time she 'opened' up to me and said things like "I like you" (TEST).

Unexperinced, I thought I had won her over...I did what I wanted to do and not what I NEEDED to do. I became sappy and shared my needy feelings.

I gave her "what she wanted".

After that...she was gone (emotionally). It was like a flip switched off in her.

Reading this thread again solved that mystery for me...finish how you start.

Her becoming more dirct and showing more interest was a TEST to see how I would react to her being more direct.

I changed and she saw what she needed to see.

I was NOT what I had presented myself to be.

She could NOT trust me and be herself completely with me.

I NEEDED her.

I was NOT a REAL MAN.

If I WAS what I presnted myself to be though...ohh boy!! she would have probably been puddy in my hands and I would have been on her mind a lot more!

I also believe if I was strong in myself and sharing my feelings would have invested her even more to me, being I did it from a place of not needing her, but being honest with her as well.

It was nice to have it 'click' for me by reading this.

It really is that easy! ;)
Author:  Aragorn [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 5:04 pm ]
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Man, experience really is the best teacher. So don't worry but take it as an experience moving forward.

Same thing happened (or is happening) to me. So reading this is very good.


What's important though is where the space mindset is coming from. Is it a tactic to get her to become submissive and pursue you? Or is it a genuine "I don't give too big of a shit, if any" thing.
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 5:15 pm ]
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Aragorn wrote:
Man, experience really is the best teacher. So don't worry but take it as an experience moving forward.

Same thing happened (or is happening) to me. So reading this is very good.


What's important though is where the space mindset is coming from. Is it a tactic to get her to become submissive and pursue you? Or is it a genuine "I don't give too big of a shit, if any" thing.
It is not a tactic...it just you being you and congruent to your mindset. :geek:
Author:  Aragorn [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 5:26 pm ]
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The Kidd!! wrote:
Aragorn wrote:
Man, experience really is the best teacher. So don't worry but take it as an experience moving forward.

Same thing happened (or is happening) to me. So reading this is very good.


What's important though is where the space mindset is coming from. Is it a tactic to get her to become submissive and pursue you? Or is it a genuine "I don't give too big of a shit, if any" thing.
It is not a tactic...it just you being you and congruent to your mindset. :geek:
Oh I know, just wrote that to differentiate the two. 8-)
Author:  TheDude [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 7:52 pm ]
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I thought everything taught here was a tactic. ;)
Author:  peregrinus [ Thu Oct 30, 2014 11:40 am ]
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bliss wrote:
This just reminded me of a previous experience I had about a year ago that I was unsure about...

A classmate of mine took a liking to me and every class we would chat a bit.

Somestimes we would flirt hard.

After some time she 'opened' up to me and said things like "I like you" (TEST).

Unexperinced, I thought I had won her over...I did what I wanted to do and not what I NEEDED to do. I became sappy and shared my needy feelings.

I gave her "what she wanted".

After that...she was gone (emotionally). It was like a flip switched off in her.

Reading this thread again solved that mystery for me...finish how you start.

Her becoming more dirct and showing more interest was a TEST to see how I would react to her being more direct.

I changed and she saw what she needed to see.

I was NOT what I had presented myself to be.

She could NOT trust me and be herself completely with me.

I NEEDED her.

I was NOT a REAL MAN.

If I WAS what I presnted myself to be though...ohh boy!! she would have probably been puddy in my hands and I would have been on her mind a lot more!

I also believe if I was strong in myself and sharing my feelings would have invested her even more to me, being I did it from a place of not needing her, but being honest with her as well.

It was nice to have it 'click' for me by reading this.

It really is that easy! ;)
Beautifully put, step by step.

The lesson has been learnt methinks
Author:  Alchemist [ Fri Nov 28, 2014 2:03 pm ]
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Wonderful stuff.

In my experience you can just never be eager for them, that shit will have them running away. :lol:
Author:  Dali [ Fri Nov 28, 2014 2:57 pm ]
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Alchemist wrote:
Wonderful stuff.

In my experience you can just never be eager for them, that shit will have them running away. :lol:
I can relate to this. :mrgreen:
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